@littleonemorning thank you

In i am so scared to jve this talk with my mom we fell out once i wouldn't even speak to her than i had a change of events and to ask her to come bk around to help me but i met my husband ( were getting married in 2019) but sill hes my right hand its like all she do is say yall might not b together long dontlook happy than she say i need to keep tabs on his check just allkids of things its like she dont know when to stop.... If i get pregnant she will hve a fit of course she acts like the two i got is like 5 kids

@ashjordan2011, you’re welcome. You can make your own choices. Just remember your Mom may be looking out for you in a way she sees fit (like how my mom did), but it’s still your life. ❤️ good luck!

@ashjordan2011, I don’t know if you’re gonna find anyone to relate more than me on the situation of your mom! My mom has told me for years that she absolutely does NOT want me to have kids. She has always painted pregnancy as a bad thing since as long as I can remember. She makes a point of it to make sure I KNOW she doesn’t want me to have kids. She does the same thing to me, if I’m not doing as she wants, she will act like I’m a kid and scold me about it. I had to eventually tell her.. this is my life, you don’t pay my bills, and if my decisions upset you that bad, you can feel free to walk away from my life. But I’m not going to plan my life around what she wishes she would have done.

@littleonemorning thanks so much that means alot. I really do think we can do it ge takes care of my other two like they are his own so why not.

@penelope127 i can truely understand that think i might take that time

@ashjordan2011, I think what your mother says shouldn’t determine it. When I found out I was pregnant again with my youngest, I was scared to tell my mom because she made a big stink about “waiting” to have another one. And I’m a grown woman.

But it was because she was worried about money, granted she isn’t paying our rent, or feeding my family so it wasn’t her concern.

Like others said, talk to your husband. Just because you got it out doesn’t mean you’ll get pregnant ASAP. It’s your life if you guys can handle another, go for it!

@hpsutton we have been doing that over the past few days but says hes on board no matter what i decide we are newly engaged n our relationship new to family n friends so i guess ppl think mayb we shoukd wait......oh hers the kicker hes 46 i am 26 ... I am just tired of feeling like i am waiting for confirmation

@littleonemorning well my family n my money ....like mom said so u got ur iud whats ur next birth control step she doesnt want me to hve another kid...i have one of those mothers u have to please or she look down at u... My husband said to cut my family off n b at peace

Give yourself a little time to think on it, and discuss it with your husband! Over the last 3 years of trying I have had a couple of freakout moments where I’ve been like oh crap, wait, are we ready?? Is this a good idea????

Taking some time to yourself and having a good heart to heart always helps. 💕

Just discuss it with your husband. Being on any sort of birth control makes it harder to conceive, so maybe just give it a bit to really think about if you want another kid or not. Maybe by the time your body regulated itself back to your normal, you’ll have your answer.

I’m confused. What makes you think you don’t want another one?