Vent: My mother in law knows we are TTC. She is excited and nosy. I don’t blame her. Most times when I visit them they offer wine or another beverage. She joked and said she’s going to keep offering my wine and when I say no she will know I’m pregnant. I told her I’m not going to say no to wine from now on so she doesn’t bug me. The thing is I plan on telling my family and his family at the same time in a cute way when we are ready, not for her to find out from bugging me! Any tips on how to deal with this?
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@kristenap yes that better than rest of people you can tell later on
@carol.braganca.2014, I plan on telling my immediate family around 8-10 weeks. I couldn’t wait 4 months for me personally.
You do not want to tell people i remember my family dr was like you can tell people after 4 month
@jlwood19, totally agree. When the time comes I want to be able to tell them when I’m 8-10 weeks when our families are together. Not when I’ve just found out and I say no to wine 😜
I understand your feelings. I had plans to do the same with my family and at times would get mad at my mom for talking to me about our losses and other TTC stuff. She died suddenly 3 months ago and all I hear in my head is her saying “I hope you keep talking to me”. So I guess I look at it from a different angle now. Those talks were all she had to be excited for and she’ll never meet my future kids. Just another spin on the situation.
@kristenap in the past we had miscarriage so we only told family after jason was born we show pics on facebook and people were shock
I never told my family or his family i was pregrant with my son after 6 months and with baby 2 we told our family at 6 months again
@beakymcspence @beakymcspence you do not want to jinx it happend me a few years ago
@beakymcspence, they have one, but they are practically raising it. 😑
@kristenap, Is it their first grand baby
@hpsutton, I’ve only told a select amount of people that we are trying and now I can’t even tell them I feel tired without them giving me that funny look 😂 but yes I don’t understand why some people think it’s their business to get up in my business lol
@beakymcspence, My approach has been getting my Fiance to deal with it also, 😂 like I understand they are excited of what’s possibly to come but when they start bugging constantly and not taking no for answer it’s very frustrating. I’ve said to them when I know and I’m ready to tell you guys you’ll know 🤔
@hpsutton, Yep sometimes you gotta bust out the tough love
Yep my in laws did this about a year after we had our youngest. I took the easy out and made my husband deal with it lol!!! Last night his mom kept pushing wine on me and so she’d pour a glass and Darrell would drink it without her knowing 🙊 We don’t want to tell anyone yet since we had a MC recently. Just tell them in a kind way it will happen when it’s meant to be and your trying. That’s all that matters your trying and when it happens they will know ❤️
@kristenap, I agree! Honestly I started being rude right back. Sometimes you gotta tell people that you love em but they need to back up.
I’ve had strangers/very little known acquaintances ask about it too and I get as awkward as I possibly can. I was one day late calling to pay on my car and when I told the lady I was sick the day before and it slipped my mind she asked if I was pregnant. I said nope, just the fertility meds making me feel terrible. But thanks for asking! She was not amused.. lol.
But really, it’s yours and your spouses business, and other people need to butt out. I never understood why people feel the need to be so nosy about it!
Oh gosh! Been there done that! I had to be brutally honest. My father in law kept constantlyyyyyy asking if he was gonna have another grandbaby yet. I finally had to get real and be like look, you’re driving me insane, I love you, but your behavior is hurtful and giving me anxiety and you have GOT to stop.
@kristenap I had a friend who did ivf she told people straight away lost the baby and now she's 5 months pregrant she wait 4 months to tell