To the new mom buying formula at Walmart with her 1 month old baby, I see you.
To the new mom buying formula at Walmart with her 1 month old baby, I see you.
I see the tears in your eyes when you read 'breast is best' on every label.
I see you looking around, wondering if other moms are judging you for feeding such a little baby formula.
I see your husband standing there, unsure of how to help you, silently hurting with you.
I see your confusion as you read label after label, wondering if one is better than the other, and which one will be best for your baby that is currently screaming in your arms.
I also see your baby. I see this brand new beautiful life.
I know that you feel like you are failing this tiny human, but I want you to know that you aren't.
I see the love that you have for this baby, the desire to give him what he needs even though you are not sure what that is yet.
I see this baby who loves his mama, and is going to continue to love you when you feed him formula.
I see your husband who is going to get a chance to help you, to feed his baby as well.
I see that there is so much more to this story then what meets the eye. I don't know what brought you here, to Walmart on a Sunday at 7 with a new baby, but I know whatever it is wasn't easy.
I see your pain, but I also see that it will get better.
Finally we make eye contact, I quietly show you which brand we used and assure you and your husband that it is going to be ok.
I tell you that my 16 month old daughter loved me the same when she was breast fed and formula fed.
Both of our eyes fill with tears.
While I walk away, I see you silently talking with your husband while your baby continues to cry in your arms.
To the mama in Walmart buying formula, I hope you know you aren't failing your child, your child is going to be ok, and you are going to be ok again too.
- I didn’t write this but I thought it was beautiful and would maybe help some mamas out that are going through this.
Roci·
I love it so much I cried. And I breastfeed exclusively but when he was a few days old he had jaundice really bad the dr thought it would be best to feed him formula and it broke my heart. Gave him one bottle and he refused to drink it so I choose to breastfeed him. Beautiful post !!!!
Dominic Lee·
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@rocilove4, I’m sorry you went through that but I’m so glad that he started to war again. This is honestly one of my fears for when I start to breastfeed. I just want everything to be perfect but I also know that everything doesn’t go as planned so I’m trying to prepare myself mentally now just Incase things don’t go the way I want
Liz Southwick ·
Мама двоих (младенец)
Omgosh I needed this. Thank you & God bless you ❤️❤️
Allyson Almeda·
I don't let those labels bother me, I believe FED is best, no matter how it's done. I never breast fed my oldest and I'm not with this one either, I honestly never really wanted to. I may be judged and looked down on for that but again, I don't let anyone get to me.
Dominic Lee·
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@ladyblauvelt_mommyof2, & there’s absolutely nothing wrong with that. It’s your choice for your child. This post was for the women who want to, but can’t & feel hurt bc of it
Allyson Almeda·
@domino0317 yeah I know, I was just posting my confidence in not breast feeding because it's perfectly ok in hopes they could find confidence in it too and not be hard on themselves
Dominic Lee·
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@ladyblauvelt_mommyof2, that’s really nice of you. I hope they do find peace & confidence like you did.
Mamauv·
Touching .. i felt at one point i had failed my baby because i couldnt breastfeed this post means alot
Nati B·
Мама дочки (1 год), беременна (20 нед.)
Everyone has their reasons for breastfeeding or bottle feeding (formula). I would never bash another mother for her choice. I do however feel for the mothers who like me, at the beginning are convinced that their breastmilk isn’t enough. While that can be true in some cases due to lactation problems, I remember I cried because my daughter would scream as an infant as if I wasn’t feeding her enough and i would frantically try to put her on the breast and she’d cry. I felt guilty for not getting her formula. As if I was willingly starving my child. Little did I know, that it was perfectly normal, cluster feeding, crying etc is their way of signaling mommy’s body to produce more milk. Before I knew it she was the chunkiest baby around lol, but I remember the terror and fear and crying to my husband “we should go get her formula, my baby is starving”. Anyway for those mothers who want to breastfeed but feel like they can’t, as long as your baby is gaining weight your milk is just fine. If breastfeeding isn’t your thing, or you honestly can’t for whatever reason, formula is good too. The goal is to raise healthy happy babies.
airwren123·
We bf & this still made me tear up
Christina C.·
Мама сына-младенца
This is beautiful and made me feel better about the hard choice I had to make. Makes it harder when I can't produce becuase of all my stress
Michelle 🇵🇷·
😭 this was me when my son was born. I tried breastfeeding him the first week and someone just got me so mad that my milk supply just went away the next day and I couldn’t breastfeed him any longer. It’s definitely heart breaking because that’s what everyone kept saying “breast is best” and I still get it thrown at my face. It hurts not knowing I couldn’t keep breastfeeding my son and knowing people were judging me so much. I saw myself through this post. I’ve gone through so many different types of formula with my son because non of them work and then I remember what other people say and it just breaks me. I am doing whatever I can for my son to survive. So whatever is best for my son formula or breast I don’t care as long as he is healthy.
Dominic Lee·
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@president.mommy.on.board., & at the end of the day having a healthy baby is all that matters. Whether you give him the breast or formula. As long as he’s healthy, you’re doing your job as his mother ! Ppl judge & don’t know why you do what you do. But who cares bc at the end of the day what works for you may not work for them. So they can all just shove it !
Michelle 🇵🇷·
Amen to that!! ♥️
Sierra·
Мама сына (4 года)
This post made me cry also because at one point I was this mama as I'm sure alot of you are and it broke my heart as well but sometimes certain things stop us from being able to breast feed whether it be by choice or medical. If you are feeding,loving and taking care of your baby it doesn't matter whether it comes from you or formula💓 God bless each and everyone of you and your babies💓