My MNL is well I'll just say crazy🤗her and her husband just show up around dinnertime mainly…

My MNL is well I'll just say crazy🤗her and her husband just show up around dinnertime mainly whenever they want (causing my 3year old to not want to eat throwing out bed time routine into chaos) no call no text no heads up. Then she looks over our house with a look like don't you ever clean? My anxiety is extremely high bc I have to tip toe around her feelings bc she just can go off at anytime about anything she either bites your head off or cries. Just now while I was reading books to my daughter she call me bawling wondering why they don't take care of our kids or why they don't have the kids go over at their house. I'm a Stay at Home Mom !!! Their is no reason for them to watch them other then when my husband and I go on dates , on top of that one their house is full of breakable stuff not toddler friendly at all, and two the neighbor good they live in isn't safe ! They had a triple homicide the next block over less then a year ago and they laughed it off like it was nothing!! What the hell!!!!! She also works 50 hours a week at her job they have stuff planned every weekend when they are off how can they and when can they ?! Makes me want to move to Hawaii with my middle finger pointing high behind us. But I know that would hurt my parents who live a few hours away and know how to pick up a phone and communicate before biting my head off