Help me decode this guy...lol so last night we hooked up this morning he texts me saying he wanted…

@the.real.og lol something is up cuz we were like talking non stop even today after he said that then when I told him that he was like oh really stay safe. Then when he texted back he was just all pissy towards me and it was super weird.

@the.real.og and technically he doesn't have the right to be since he wanted to be friends right?lol

I’d say he wants to be friends and then when you say you are hanging with other guys I think he’s just giving you space like you are going to look into a different guy. I don’t think there’s really anything going on with him. He just may have respect and not talk to you even as friends when you are with other guys🤷🏼‍♀️ just an idea lol. You obviously know him better but that’s what I would think. Lol

@lincolnsmommy18 hopefully lol

I think he does want to just be your friend with benefits, but doesn’t want you going out with other guys either. His loss.

@penelope127 hahaha right it's like sorry I'm not gonna be single forever😂😂

@nessaa Idk lol but boy am I over his pissy attitude

Let’s decode you first! Why is this important? Do you want more than friendship? Do you value his friendship period and miss it? First know why it matters, then use that approach to react to the situation. If you want a serious relationship with a man, there can’t be any games, even if they aren’t intentional.

@amysbabies I honestly don't know. To be honest I was really into the guy I hooked up with but when he told me he wanted to be just friends I kinda gave up hope on him. And went out with other friends it wasn't just a guy though there were girls too. But I do really miss him.

@kysmomma, sometimes you have to be up front. If a guy tells you he just wants to be friends say, you know, I’m a bit disappointed, I was hoping we could be more! Not in an angry tone, just an honest, meaningful one. Sometimes this is all they need or they will come back in a few days and say “you know, me too!” Other times it’s just not meant to be.

Some men are just very territorial. It was so hard for me, I lost a friend I had since we were literally babies just because he could not let me go. When I started dating my now husband he started getting more aggressive in his pursuit- one that I didn’t know existed! I told him I really want to be friends and to please stop. It continued I let our friendship cool and then years later when I got engaged, he picked it up again. He told me he believes everything is on the table until someone is married and will not stop- it was very disrespectful. That is when I said goodbye. What made it harder is even our fathers grew up together and our grandmothers were friends! I can’t imagine how possessive he would have been if we ever did go out. Men are complicated.

But if you do miss him, tell him! And ask him where he has been!

@amysbabies thank you for this🙂

@kysmomma, good luck!!! 🍀😄

@amysbabies hahaha imma need it

Was that the first time you hooked up with him? Maybe he just wanted some booty lol

@currentlybaking yes and that's exactly what I thought but now he's gonna be upset cuz I'm talking to other guys like wth

You lost all your clout in the relationship by giving up the goods. Telling him your hanging out with other men seems like you're TRYING to make him jealous.

He wants to be friends with benefits