I’m so frustrated with my fiancé, I just don’t know how else to get him to understand my feelings. I feel like we are on a constant roller coaster of the same cycle. He goes to work during the week and I’m stuck home all day everyday in the same mundane routine. Don’t get me wrong, absolutely adore my babies and enjoy every second with them, but I don’t get to just pick up and go whenever I want. Heck I can’t even just go to the store with them, she absolutely hates car rides. So I don’t go anywhere except dr appointments with her mostly. He finds an excuse to leave the house any chance he can. To go to the gym, to the store, to a friends, etc. on weekends I just assume he could come up with something for us to do as a family other than just going to sit at his parents. But instead, if we aren’t going there, he just comes up with all of these reasons to go somewhere multiple times a day. When I say that he just looks for an excuse to leave, he gets mad and says that’s not true at all. I mean do I just have ridiculously high expectations or what?
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I completely understand!! And no you don’t.. men don’t realize how hard and “depressing” it can be on is moms. We’re always so strong for everyone else, the caretaker, etc. But no time (alone) for ourselves. And we need that to function properly and just to feel good in general. It’s frustrating but my SO has slowly come around. He still has his moments but he knows once I become very irritable or bitchy, I just need time for ME. Without him/kids, or at least together or a day/night for just us to spend together. Something to just allow me to breathe, enjoy fresh air.
This has been life since my son came into this world. I finally got fed up with it so I’m getting a job from home I mean he can go wherever he want idc anymore cause he’s the one missing out and always complain about missing out I don’t say nothing because once they get older they will see it for themselves. My husband has been on a party spree while I’m pregnant taken care of our son on top of some other personal stuff he done but I know I have to do what’s best for me and my kids I’m tryna be happy he completely complains way too much and never wants to do nothing as a family either we’re at his parents or my parents or the house he come with I don’t have the money to for all that but soon as he wants to do something it’s okay.! But I put my foot down if we want to do something I’ll pay for it with my own money and not have to ask for nothing or here negative stuff about it
Have you talked to him about doing things together? Maybe you need to be the one to plan something for you all to do one day. My husband is a SAHD and he has no car, so he truly is stuck in the house all day every day. Understand that while you have the same mundane routine, a working parent also has the same routine every day and it gets just as tiring and frustrating. Him finding excuses to leave the house by himself though isn't fair if there's no balance. You need time to do your own thing just as much and you also should do things as a family as well.
Im going thru the exact same thing. I know exactly what you mean. But it doesn't seem like my SO understands how I feel even if I explain. And the finding any excuse to do something is getting old. Like last night my dad came over and he never has before it was late and unexpected. Instead of my SO saying its late and hea tired he told him to come. Showed him around and talked with him even drove him home(since he got dropped off) but right beforw my dad called my SO was "too tired" to even change my sons diaper or take him a bath. The only time we go out as a family is to cousins house or out to eat at both places i watch my son while my SO relaxes. Its not fair I love my son but he has two parents and we should share responsibility of taking care of him. Ita to the point i just wanna hit my head on the wall smh
This happened when I moved to Louisiana I don’t know anyone here and it felt like I was always stuck in the house with the kids. So I joined a group on Facebook local moms and play dates. Best thing ever I been in the group for a year and met regular moms and I even met one that became a close friend, so we switch off with each other watch each other kids while we date our spouses a few times out the month. It was a breath of fresh air.