I guess I won’t be having another baby ... my husband and I been talking about ttc in September. I…
I guess I won’t be having another baby ... my husband and I been talking about ttc in September. I brought up that I’d like my mother to come stay with us while I’m pregnant if my pregnancy is anything like the first one. It was really difficult I was in and out the hospital. I couldn’t even take care of myself. Let alone now having to take of another child. I was on bed rest for most of my first pregnancy. I couldn’t do anything. And that I’d like her here to help after birth as well if I have another c section. I know it’s like 10 whole months, but I need her. But she’ll have to come with my younger brother as well. Of course now my husband is mad because he doesn’t want anyone living with us. He says he will help out but what about when he’s gone all day at work? I need someone else’s help. Now idk what to do 😭
Yo mama·
What are your chances of having another high risk pregnancy? I hate people living with me too so I see both sides. Would you be able to hirer a nanny if you are in fact put on bed rest then your mom come stay the month after you give birth? There’s a lot of factors that come into play. Like would you try for a v-bac or again the high risk pregnancy or you could have a completely different experience this time around and not really need anything. I feel like there are a lot of what ifs. I think you should try and then based on how your pregnancy is going then make those decisions. If anything else he can’t tell you no if your already pregnant and need the help.
Nunya Business·
Perhaps this is one of those times you guys put a pin in it and come back to it another time. Maybe your September timeline isn't ideal anymore, but that's not to say it won't happen later on. It may be easier on you to try again when your daughter isn't as dependent on you and can occupy herself better or even help you out.
I don't agree with that last statement by @bigmama18md . It's not right to trap your husband into a situation you know he's against. That will put unnecessary strain on your relationship when it should be a time to celebrate.
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@bigmama18md, I honestly don’t know what the chance are of me having another really hard pregnancy. I know not all pregnancies are the same. And I’m hoping and praying it’s not the same if we try for another baby. I also hate people living with us. And I get his point of view. Plus giving the history him and my mom have it’s not a good one. We’ve lived together before and it didn’t work out. But we can’t afford a nanny right now so my mom would be such great help. She’s amazing with me and my daughter. As for the Vbac I’m honestly terrified of it. So that is something I’d have to think about long and hard.
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@haslberry, I get what your saying. I think that might be what we might have to do. we just really wanted our kids to be close in age so that’s why we wanted to try in September. But sometimes life isn’t how we want it to go lol. And I know what you mean about not forcing him. I never want to put him in a situation that can make him resent me or anything like that
Yo mama·
@haslberry, I didn’t mean trap him into it. I’m just stating if they decide to move forward he can’t tell her no she can’t get help at that point. It would be different if he didn’t work but if he has to go to work some sort of compromise has to be made.
Lanie Jay·
@hellogoogle, perhaps a chat with your doctor to find out the risks may be helpful. We went for 3 preconception appointments to get opinions on the risks of another pregnancy.
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@jack.ass, oh I didn’t even think about that! Thanks for telling me
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@lpheartsyou, my mom lives in another country so if comes to help out she’ll have to stay for the months I need her