I asked him Friday if he wanted to avoid court and just give me a certain amount every month for…
I asked him Friday if he wanted to avoid court and just give me a certain amount every month for child support that we could agree together And co parent. He never responded to me about that, completely avoided it. So now he tells me he is waiting for his mom to get back to talk to her. Honestly it’s mine and his kid not hers and she has the tendency to completely go against anything I see. So I guess Court it is since he can’t co parent with me. Always going with what his girlfriend or mommy says. It’s kinda hard to raise a child when the other parent is a child himself
Brooke·
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@its.a.bird, I tried to give him the benefit of doubt. In no way am I using it to punish him. I even told him it’s for our son and that our son needs things. I told him that if he doesn’t want to be a dad then he can leave and I can do it myself. He has gradually gotten more distant from his son. My son doesn’t even play when he is around him. He just sits there confused or playing with his toys by himself. And then when my son comes home from overnights every other weekend he doesn’t act himself. I told him two months ago that his son needed shoes and he tried to give me hand me downs that were 4 sizes too big. I work, my boyfriend and I split bills. Recently I had to take off work for medical reasons. My boyfriend has been helping pay for things for my son. This past month my sons father left for three weeks to go to portugal to visit his girlfriend. That’s two weekends that he ditched his son for some girl. Why I try to work with him still I have no idea. I just don’t want to be in and out of court and have my son wonder why mommy and daddy don’t get along and why they “hate” each other.
Monica·
A court order is a good thing. Not saying it'll happen, but it also provides protection for you if he ever decides to just take the boy and run. Without a custody arrangement it can be a lot harder to get the child back. If he doesn't show for visitations, too, you can go back to the court and have it changed.
MassMomma16·
If I am in a difficult situation I will always call my mom or Dad. Doesn’t mean I’m not adult or can’t make decisions on my own. 🤷🏻♀️ but just go through court. It will benefit everyone.