Hey momas we are thinking of sending our son to a boarding school when he turns 8.Do y’all think it’s a good idea?
🤔 At age 8, I would not. But I know there are people that do. I attended a prep school as a boarder for high school, and I will say that some of the behaviors witnessed there , let’s say bad influence would be an understatement.
What does the school have in place to fully nurture your child? How often would you visit? Do you not have any independent/ private / public schools that would foster these same traits?
My niece is 8. I can not imagine being without her. She goes to public school. She has good teachers, good friends, good grades, is polite, loving, caring, very smart. She is this way because her family, teachers and friends
This is wild to me. I could never imagine sending my daughter halfway across the world to boarding school at 8 years old. You’re trying to prevent bad influences, but there are bad influences everywhere. He can be surrounded by good peers, learn good habits, learn respect and humility all while living at home with his family. Sending an 8 year old away to boarding school seems cruel to me. This would be different if he were 14 or 15, but I would even question it then. Why not research elite private schools in your area and surrounding areas and send him to a private school? If you’ve got the coins to send him across the world to school and to talk about going to visit, you’ve got the coins to get him into a school right here at home.
This is kind of crazy. If you want him to go to a school in a different country why not wait till he's older like 15 or 16? 8 is way too young. If you want him to have the best education thats on your son if he wants to learn. If you force him to much he won't like learning at all and rebel.
@babyjay27, 😳 I urge you to consider the effects of him being across the world from you at such a young age. When I was 8 years old and my belly hurt I laid in bed with my mom. When I had a bad dream at night I yelled out and my parents came to comfort me. When I played softball my dad was at every game. My Grammy cooked me my favorite meals. Across the world he’ll hardly have any relationship with you. He’ll be lost and confused without anything or anyone he knows or is comfortable with. He learns by watching you and your family. Send him to a private school or homeschool if you’re afraid of bad influences. But it’s your job as his parent to raise him in such a way that he will not conform to negative influences.
I see no reason for this. You can get a good education in public or private school in your district, make good friends, etc... He learns good behaviors from his parents, school teachers, family, etc...
You teach him good from bad friends. An 8yr old needs his parents.
@mommytok, we want that for him.There is this boarding in UK many kids that went there came out with good education behaviors and respect also humility.So we think since our son hasn’t had bad friends yet it’s time to send him there and give him the best education.Also we will be going there to see him and spend time with him too
@babyjay27, is there behavior issues? Why do you think this is best for him?
@babyjay27, it wouldn’t be worth it to me unless my child was 100% disabled and we couldn’t give them the care they needed and we couldn’t afford services/caregivers in our own home. I guess you’d need to explain the entire situation then... are there extreme behavior issues? A serious disability? Those are the only two reasons I feel like it could possibility be beneficial. Children need their parents. I can’t imagine being 8 and not living with my mom and dad.
@mommytok, while it’s a mother’s heart but if you see that it might help your son be the man you want him to be.Its worth it
@sarah.s, I have been at a boarding I think it would help me prepare for his future
I’ve considered it with my almost 6 year old. 🤷🏼♀️ nothing works for him. He’s angry, mean, and adhd. He’s head butted holes in my walls. There isn’t one close to me though.
Ummmm no... kids need their parents around. Does he have behavioral problems? Why would you send him away?
@babyjay27 but it is and sort of depressing.