My mom always, literally ALWAYS has an excuse when I ask her to take or watch my kids. Even a few…

Well it's probably better they're not around him anyways. Sorry u can't go though, that's a bummer.

@landloglillexliv, usually when they’re Around he doesn’t drink which makes him act like a jackass. It’d just be nice to be able to be a person and not just a parent ALL THE TIME

Well, maybe it's a good thing she says no if her husband is a drunk. Maybe she is just trying to protect your children but doesn't know how to tell you that? I had a really good baby sitter and she suddenly stopped being able to watch my son ever. It turns out her and her husband were going through a nasty divorce and she didn't want my son to get hurt or anything.. But on the other hand my own mother makes constant excuses too of why she can not watch my son, and it is always last minute to where I lost my two previous jobs because I was relying on her. It may be annoying but your mom is probably doing you a favor by saying no. She doesn't have to make excuses... and could tell you the truth. But it may be hard for her to do so.

@its.a.bird, no it’s not even that. Like I get it. But a simple ass back ache? And you need all that shit? No. He’s a big ass cry baby.

I wouldn’t even want my child around a drunk, so it’s probably better this way. I know it’s frustrating to not be able to enjoy activities with your friends tho! Is there anyone else around you that you could trust to watch your children while you go?

@babymay2016, I agree. But it’s like she can’t even control his stupidity long enough to see my kids. She lives less than 2 mins away. She doesn’t even stop by. It’s frustrating honestly. Even though I should be used to it. She’s always chosen men over us and my kids.

@queenmeeks, nope. My mom and grandma. And my grandma does her stuff with us while my grandpa is working and I’m around because she can’t handle them both by herself. She’s getting up there in age. And my dad doesn’t ever see them. He doesn’t like kids lol

@its.a.bird, exactly! It’s always something.

I totally understand. I live WITH my mom and she still will be too sick or tired to watch my son. I now always have to have a back up plan if she offers to watch him ever ever ever. She will be upset too if I take him somewhere else and she was ready to watch him. Well after all the times you backed out, can't be trusted. Sorry not sorry

I understand. It's good to have time to yourselves once in a while. Have u looked into finding a reliable sitter? Maybe someone in your neighborhood or on a sitter site?

@babymay2016, omg yes! She likes to back out last minute. She was gonna take them one night this weekend so I could get some stuff done, and just texted saying that she can’t now. Like wtf.

Maybe one day she can be trusted again, but I would be shocked. I can hardly ever make plans and it will be even worse once baby brother is here. But it is what it is...

Yeah... Sounds like my mom. I would definitely just stop asking her or if you have to, have a back up plan. She is now my plan... like D.

@landloglillexliv, I don’t trust people like that honestly. To many children end up abused or worse. I only trust family, and even half of them I don’t. The only person whose taken both my kids over night is my 18 year old cousin and my grandma. Even my mom says she can’t handle two. Which I DONT understand cause my brother and I were 2 years apart. Mine are 5. 🙄🤷🏼‍♀️

@babymay2016, I haven’t asked for a long while cause I was sick of the excuses. I even asked when my grandma passed away the night before Easter and she only took my oldest.. this is the first time I’ve asked in awhile just because I need a breAk. My oldest is adhd, and my daughter is teething and super cranky. I just wanted some sleep and to have a few drinks. It’s just frustrating. Most of the time her husband is good with the kids, especially my oldest. He just has a short fuse when it comes to my oldest defiance and hyperactivity.

@babymay2016, but he isn’t allowed to discipline him at ALL. and he knows it.

I'm sorry 😰 I completely get where you are coming from, but I would rather be with my kids out of my mind than to have my mom watch them when she doesn't feel capable of doing it... I actually respect your mom more than I do my own of her saying she can't handle it. Mine would TRY to handle it because she said she would, and something bad happen. I mean really you should take that as a good thing, in my opinion. I will be upset at my mom "you said you would!" And she will be screaming back at me FINE I CAN DO IT. And then act all happy and capable until I am gone and legit GO TO SLEEP and not watch my son. Not cool

My mom n step dad offer to take my boys all the time for a "sleepover" but never offer to even take my 1 year old for even a few hours. I pretty much have to move moutains to get them to take her. Its quite annoying that they treat the girls different than the boys