Hey guys new to the app .. just need some advice I’m 26 I have three kids I’m in school (online) my…

I understand it can be hard. Kids are amazing gifts. I'm 25 and I have 5 kids. When I had my first everyone was excited then my second they were pissed and o got called stupid. My third no one cared and so on. My last two weren't even wanted. It was the hardest thing in the world. But you know what, I stood strong and took care of my babies no matter what anyone else thought including family. My family is not very supportive at all but if yours are that is awesome. Your 26 though so I don't see why anyone would be upset. I had my first two before o graduated high school on time by myself with no help. My other three I had all of them by the time I was 23. Now I'm a strong independent single mommy who busts her ass and showed everyone I could do it even when they had no faith in me. You got this girl. Keep your chin up and stay strong ❤️

It’s your life, and your the one taking care of your kids. I wouldn’t say a thing to them until after your in the safe zone for your pregnancy.

My advice is...run away from this app while you still can😂😂😂😂

Welcome and dont worry about what they say...people will judge you for not getting pregnant, for getting pregnant, for having just 1 kid or for having 7.

@yamip91, love you out look and your So right they will judge for doing nothing at all

Same here !!! I’m 21 and I had my first daughter at 19 , I’ll be 22 when i have this baby but It’s sad that people including family can be so judgmental smh , i have an almost 2 year old and I keep her a secret from Everyone until i knew what the gender was. This one is gonna be the same way or if not even longer , i just don’t have time for negativity! Period . I’m happy

@kiaajanay, I totally agree with you I’m gonna probably keep it a secret for a while I just wanna enjoy my baby .. I’m so happy I really couldn’t believe it when i got positive test

@katirahtiana, yes !! Best way to do it ! Bc at that point when they do find out who can say anything lol 😂 enjoy babes I’m in the same boat & ikkkkkkk isn’t it amazing! Children are blessings! I’m excited for us 😊😊😊😊 don’t let anyone take your happiness

@kiaajanay, okuuur lol right it just kills me I’m grown it my body my money my time so how dare u judge me .. not only that people choose to live their life how they want I don’t get to decide witch choices are right for them

@katirahtiana, EXACTLY girl i do not understand!!! People be low key hating that’s what i think it really is lol like get a life ! Why are my decisions such a concern to you lol i just know people gonna talk regardless if you doing good or bad who cares , i can’t stand negativity

I am in the same position I am 29 though and have 3 little ones and am expecting my 4th I haven’t told any of my family and don’t have the desire to I don’t care to hear their comments or opinions on my life. This is something happy & exciting for me as this will be my last baby and I don’t care to hear anyone’s negative ish. I’m not sure when I will tell them probably not until I have no choice but to which sucks because most other families are excited when someone announces they are expecting, my brother went as far as to say to me a couple years ago that it was his “worst nightmare” if I were to have another child. I don’t get it either because I have lived on my own for 10 years now and ask for nobodies help.

@mimixtmn, wow yea with my second child I told no family until I had her don’t wanna do that again but I’m gonna wait for while to tell them , I have been on my own since 17 but it seems like no one notices that I even moved out of state and seem like the still think I some sort of child .. why would your brother say that smh that mean

@one_coolmama, it’s sad my brother and I use to be close we are only one year apart and we’re close our whole lives but he moved away to the middle of nowhere and feels like he is better then everyone and everyone should do what he thinks. He said that before having any kids of his own and my kids are all very well taken care of and want for nothing so that comment was completely uncalled for and ridiculous because I’m not living my life how he thinks I should be. He’s just very judgemental about every aspect of my life, I didn’t go to college like him because I got pregnant with my first at 17 and was a single mother but I have no regrets about my life and I’m happy and that’s all that matters. That’s sad that you didn’t feel like telling anyone until your child was born I hate judgemental people like I have no time for it as long and me & mine are happy that’s all that matters and then being family that should be all that matters to them too.

If you’re happy then that is all that matters. There are people like me who have spent the last 10 years trying to conceive. You should not feel ashamed of something that is a blessing. Many would love to be in your shoes right now. Take care of you and your babies.

@buneeh, thank you mama I know my family just really look at people with a lot of kids like it’s a bad thing

@one_coolmama, they will always have opinions. To be honest it’s only bad if you’re unwilling to be a good, present, and participating parent. That doesn’t seem like the case with you. You’re in school. You obviously are trying to better yourself. Tell them when you’re ready. Bring a friend or somebody you trust with you who can help back you up. Go in ready with what you plan to say and know when it’s time to end the conversation and leave. Don’t hang around to hear BS especially if they make you feel bad about yourself. This will keep you in control. Whatever you do keep your head up. You’ll do great. Rooting for you.

@buneeh, thanks mama I really appreciate it I will let you how it goes when I do tell them