So my mom texted me yesterday and asked have I scheduled my tubal ligation yet 🙄
So my mom texted me yesterday and asked have I scheduled my tubal ligation yet 🙄
She wasn't thrilled "at first" about #2, my MC or now #3 - Mind you #2 was 10 years apart from #1 🤔
Probably because we've been through a lot of financial up's and down as of late; we do live paycheck to paycheck, which I'm sure a lot of folks do too; and a child has sprung up during prime times of financial distress, honestly.
I'm also diabetic, which she loves to mention. And don't get me wrong my mom is a excellent support system - not impressed with kids until after they have arrived tho 🙄
My mom is also really matter of a fact. But, in my head, I have learned nothing is for certain. So I don't want to base children on being in the very best financial situation 😑
The whole time we were in the best financial situation never got pregnant, actually 😲
I really don't feel comfortable with any kind of birth control; we have always used condoms in between "calendar method". Which I trust, mostly. Just don't trust myself sometimes 😖
Tubal seems sooo permenant even though maybe we will/should be done after this one....
I'm 31 and my husband is 37. So, I'm taking our age in account too.
I dunno, I just feel - I don't want to get pregnant again no time soon (at least 2-3 years), I don't want to wait pass 35 years old, maybe I don't even want anymore, but yet don't want to use birth control either, but don't want any slip-ups, lol.
Tell me, am I crazy 🤯
Rowdy Vajazzy·
Non hormonal iud? I wouldn’t advise tying tubes unless 100% sure. And then have your dh get snipped!
Brianna Montgomery ·
I feel like most people live check to check . And even if not , you’re gonna struggle atleast once it life . It’s just life . Like no ones situation is ever gonna be perfect
angelfoodcake·
@rowdy-vajazzy I'm afraid of IUD and have heard of too many stories resulting in pregnancy, being about to feel it etc. I can't
Amber·
Think about it like this hun God put the baby in your life as a blessing and better things are gonna come and he not going to put more on you than you can bare the baby just going to make you guys work harder and aim harder for goals he may not come when we want him but he is right on time God foresees it all before we do and things are about to start looking up for you guys just wait and sit back and put it in God hands
A J·
I can relate on different aspects of your post.
Right now we’re using the same methods you are.. We both feel the same way about pregnancy..
I mean, we didn’t get married to use bc. 🤷♀️
Alyboo102293·
Мама троих детей, ждёт четвёртого
The non hormonal iud was the worst for me , girl I’m in the same boat im gonna try being careful will see how well it works 😂🤰🏼
angelfoodcake·
@alyboo102293 @brownsugarluv @ambrerumph1440 Do yal get judgement from family amount the amount of children?
Alyboo102293·
Мама троих детей, ждёт четвёртого
@angelfoodcake, oh yeah my family is real catholic, no sex before marriage type 🤷🏼♀️
angelfoodcake·
@alyboo102293 lol are you married?
Alyboo102293·
Мама троих детей, ждёт четвёртого
@angelfoodcake, girl no I’m engaged and on #4 lol they don’t like it but I’m the one paying for these kids so it’s all on me
Rolexia pittman·
Tying of the tubes isn't 100% I'm sitting here rocking my after tubal baby as I text this out!!.
angelfoodcake·
@momof3lovemuffins Oh wow foreal, after how many years girl
angelfoodcake·
@alyboo102293 Oh okay gotcha. I too believe in marrige or marriage being the ultimate goal lol - good job on raising those kids 😘
Alyboo102293·
Мама троих детей, ждёт четвёртого
@angelfoodcake, yeah I’ve never wanted to get married, but I’m trying something new lol
Rolexia pittman·
@angelfoodcake, 1 year. Got them tied on September 15th 2016 found out I was pregnant September 20th 2017. And like you said it seemed like when money got where we was living paycheck to paycheck that when it like BOOM here is baby!!!
A J·
@angelfoodcake, yes. 🤦♀️
I’m afraid of the same thing happening to me. @momof3lovemuffins,
Amber·
@angelfoodcake yes people say all the time omg what y'all trying to have a football team and I tell them if we choose to that's our business me and my husband takes care of them he been taking care of his kids since he found out with our oldest and we both were teens and we got a place and he took care of me and his kids cause I couldn't work being so young this man is the best father a woman can ask for I mean the absolute best people say you gonna get your tubes tide after this one I tell them nope this would be our 6th baby of we wouldn't have lost our twins and when he say OK I'm ready to stop having kids I'll tell him to get fixed until then we having a bunch we come from big families and all we be around is our family that we created I shut them down when they say that everytime