Again it was starbucks her kids could have survived. If she brought them then she should pay for them. Not my kids not my fucking problem. I don't expect anyone to pay for mine so why should I be expected to pay for theirs. Also again it was starbucks I said I'd buy her a coffee not buy her kids a big lunch. And I would have said something if I knew she was going to leave me with the whole bill and it was in store that's fucking embarrassing to suddly be like no pay for your own kids in front of a bunch of people. And honestly I'm gonna bring this up to her because it IS rude. How are you going to justify being so rude and inconsiderate like wtf. I don't think I'm being overdramatic. You don't just bring extra people and be like figure it out idc.

Maybe it’s just me but if I offer to pay than I pay for everyone. If you didn’t have the extra money why offer this trip to start with? She has children so clearly she is going to order for them. You knew her children where there in the shop, you could have said oh do you mind if I get it next time as I don’t have enough for everybody today.

@___youaremysunshine___, I think it’s rude to go all out and order an expensive menu item after asking someone to pay for you. As for the kids. A couple of hot chocolates? Cool. But drinks and snacks (I’m assuming because you said a bunch of stuff) is taking advantage. Also she should have asked if her kids could get something. It’s a coffee shop for fucks sake. Not a McDonald’s or something. The kids didn’t NEED anything.

It's not that I'm a stingy person it's that she took advantage of my kindness knowing that I was paying with my last bit of spending money if she had asked maybe it'd be different because she would of been more considerate of me but it's the fact that she just expected me to do it. Also the expensive drink wouldn't of mattered to me either if she hadn't gotten a bunch of stuff for her kids. But starbucks is expensive it adds up quick and I'm not rich. I'm sorry but I wouldn't expect someone to pay for my child especially on the spot. Honestly That's no ones responsibility but the parents. I am being extra bitchy about it but again I'm mad because it was the rest of what I had and she knew that and didn't care and put me on the spot in a store anyway.

It's the issue of offering to do something without expressing limits. If you offer but you know there is only so much you want to do it is important to express that. I think in this case you were just hoping to get her a little something to show you appreciate her as a friend. It may have been better to have purchased something without input and just said, I got this for you. That way you set your own limits on the gift you were giving.

I don’t think it’s rude .. it would’ve been rude to exclude them. But it would’ve been better if you paid for hers and she paid for her kids since you said it was only meant to be both of you guys. But I mean if you saw they were there you shouldn’t have offered to pay

Yes.

Well she didn't tell me she was bringing them it was supposed to just be me and her also it was starbucks I don't see why they couldn't of survived without it.

If her two kids are present, then whatever. But if they’re at home..then yeah that’s pretty inconsiderate.

I think it's rude. She should have asked if you would also buy the kids food too or even asked how much you were willing to spend.

Yup. I wouldn’t order anything expensive on someone else’s dime.