@newlywedmama21 that's crazy ugh

@rebecca33 apparently not in our case smh. We even have the text messages of every time she bails

@newlywedmama21 if it's in police station the contempt will probably stick better

@rebecca33 oh we do public places each time but she finds a way to "not be able to make it"

@newlywedmama21 may be talk to the courts about having pickup and drop off at a police station so they know when you get the kids back and how etc.... since they have cameras you could get it into the files at least as far as visitation goes and will show how often she sees them

@newlywedmama21 exactly... the judge said dont lie to them, if they ask tell them... she is 7 next month and she tells us straight up, why didnt my mommy listen to the judge and do what she had to do so she could get her visits back. She constantly tells her mommy going to do this mommy gonna do that but never follows through. Mommy coming to eat lunch with you at school tomorrow, dont show up, mommy going to call, dont call, mommy going to take you to the beach, dont go... like all she does is lie to my stepdaughter and my stepdaughter sees it. She seem her mom pick her bf over her, she seem her mom let her bf beat my stepdaughter leaving bruise and not stop him. Dcf had to stop him not mom. My stepdaughter is so very smart, she seen the drug use, the mom having sex infront of her, she seen her mom lettin them live in abandoned houses on the dirty floor and mom not working to provide for them, but instead chose drugs and abusive bf over her.

@paperplane oh I completely get that. And I do say that when the time comes. "Mommy just doesn't understand yet, but you are blessed with a bonus mommy and extra grandparents who love you..." Etc. I get it, my daughter is my husband's step child. And she asked those questions and I said the same thing. Except she has it worse because she doesn't see or hear from her bio dad at all. Funny thing is, she is younger than the boys and they don't ask. They just get mad when she acts up...it's a shame. That's why I always make sure they all know I love them and I'm always here

@newlywedmama21, but one day when you are tucking them in bed and you have no idea they are thinking about their mother and they look a you with big sad eyes and ask why dose my mother hate me. Make sure you take that opportunity to say no one can hate you. Of corse she loves you. She's just a troubled lady that needs to work out some problems. Because even thow it may not be talked about I guarantee you it crosses their mind.

@beachcutie0808, oh I hear you I have some messed up stories these kids have gone threw to it's terrifying that any mother can do this to their kids. Like nightmare stuff only the most sickest people can think could happen.

She had these kids to try and trap their father and it backfired so now she's mad. She's not the mother type. And I cant keep setting them up for failure by giving them false hope. I just don't say anything about their mother to them unless they ask. And that's what works for us...

@newlywedmama21, then lie to them tell them their mother dose love them but she has problems and needs help. You know she dose even if her focus is all on the hate there is a part of her that loves them. Don't let them go threw life thinking their own mother hates them girl. That will eat at their soul

@beachcutie0808 same here we let the kids see for themselves. They never hear us discuss her. Their mom did the same crap...like the exact same stuff

@paperplane oh we don't talk bad about her mom to her, she loves her mommy and we don't take that from her but her mom having her in bad places and 2 different hotel rooms with 2 different men in one day, one whom the judge ordered her not to be around bc mom had a injunction on for beating her infront my stepdaughter but mom took her to a hotel with him putting her in danger. The judge took visits bc safety, drugs, physical abuse, being homeless, missing so much school mom got truancy... so we are trying to make life better for her she is happy here.

@beachcutie0808 I thought the judge had caught on last time but apparently she still thought mom should have 2 visits....this time if we go back it should really seal the deal. I don't understand how women act like this with their children!!!

@paperplane I can't tell these boys what isn't true. She constantly reminds them that she doesn't care and she only wants to make daddy mad. She tells the youngest he isnt even welcome at her house and treats him different. Has neglected him for years. But legally she still has visitation

@newlywedmama21, yup when a women is so messed up she misses out on their kids it's not ever fixed by no amount of battle or document it's up To her to fix her self IF she even can. It's sad

@newlywedmama21 trust me we had to file contempts on n off for a good 3 yrs finally it caught up with her... and bout the whole conveniently no ride now, THE EXACT DAME THING HERE... always taking special evens from us, she missed her brother 1st bday missed her sister being born didnt meet her until she was 6 months old. Xmas fathers day way more. But caught up with her and judge put his foot down.

@beachcutie0808, sadly the mother can be very messed up and miss all kinds of opportunity. But she is still a mother who DOSE really love her daughter. You as a step parent should remind them of this often. It's important that even thow stuff like his goes on that the child still feels loved and knows their loved. Even if mom has problems.

@paperplane I honestly believe you about the no hope part til they are teens...when they can see for themselves and have real input. It's been 6 years now and still the same crap

Been there! It gets better....when the kids turn 15-16-17. they can chose for them selves and have their own vehicle

Sorry I have no words of hope till then I've done that exact battle for 10+ years. It's nice now kids are older. I have recently seen the mother try to make is so the oldest boy now 18 misses this baby's birth. But luckily she has no power over him anymore and he won't miss it for the world.

@beachcutie0808 guess we should start back filing the motions then....this is a good one to start. You're right about the paper trail.. I guess we just got tired of wasted efforts and time out of schedule for nothing

@patsfan32 I sincerely hope the same for you! This crap is no joke

@beachcutie0808 it's so freaking aggravating!!!

@newlyironman we finally gave up trying...she always found some way out of it

@newlyironman yep contempt her everytime. It makes a paper trail and courts finally cut it dry.

I've been there, fought it for 6 yrs and finally the judge gave my husband sole custody of my stepdaughter and took moms visits until she complies and completes all requirements of the courts. Well she got that information and high tailed it to Tennessee to live and has not tried to complete not one her requirements and its been since May. BUT yet still orders a call from her daughter and pretends she loves her and she is her world, mommys one and only baby... the mom who lost custody and visitation rights... hmmm yeah.

Can you call the courts and find her in contempt