Well my honey is home. His father is a scumbag and treats my child as one 🤬 and my child is a way worst terrible twos…

Honestly feel like if the father is capable, sober and willing he should be able to in the kids life.

Hang in there! My son used to be HORRIBLE when he came home from his dad’s house!!! My daughter was just really clingy afterwards. Now that they’re older it’s 100% better. But when they were little I would DREAD the first few days they came home. It will get better, I promise!

@majorreign, he’s super neglectful if his hygiene it’s disgusting!

@mblodgett922202, I can only hope 😫 usually he’s pretty good when it’s just the weekend but he had him for an extended visit and man oh man my mom kept giving me looks like wtf lol

@missjess, my kids started small, and we slowly increased. Ours was a verbal agreement until I moved to a different state. They would go on certain weekends while we lived close, and now that they’re 11 and 9 they go for the entire month of July. They come home just fine now! It’s awesome bonding time for them, just keep your head up and it will improve with encouragement. I found making it exciting helps too.

@mblodgett922202, usually he just has him every other weekend. But every July he’s entitled to a full week with him. But we have had a lot of issues with hygiene and neglect and he keeps doing it regardless of court and cps being involved. 😒 I send clean clothes and it’s common sense to bathe a child especially after playing outside and with it being over 90 outside and he keeps him in the same clothes and I can tell my son wasn’t bathed any time recent. 😒 I don’t get it.

@missjess, this was common with my ex, as well. And his parents are smokers. My kids would come home smelling like an ash tray. Thankfully they’re older now and know to shower every day, if not every other.

@mblodgett922202, smh it makes me sick! My son still has so many more years till he will know he needs to bathe on his own without being told too :( when I lived there I would see his then daughters 9 and 10 go a week or so without showering and I told him on two seperate occassions they had not bathed in over 7 days and he acted like it wasn’t a big deal! 🤢 hygiene is super important I’m a very clean person and I I make sure my son is clean and clean clothes daily and always looks good and presentable. A lot of times too he will dress him like he dressed him in the pitch dark. I have all his outfits matched all he has to do is put them on him and he totally Mis matches I’m like wth is he wearing?! I have to label pjs or he will put him in pjs during the day I’m just like wow what is wrong with this guy! Why would you want that for your child. Smh :/ he’s ruined a lot of his nice clothes too. I have bought most of the clothes he goes there with second hand or really cheap so if he ruins them they are play clothes and not his really nice brand new stuff I get him. It’s a shame really that he’s that way. I’ll never understand it.

Trust me, I deal with the same thing every week. My son goes with his father on weekends (when his father doesn't have an excuse saying he can't) and every monday when my son comes home he is straight up savage and nothing but attitude. It's terrible

@ladyblauvelt.skysmomma, like these fathers just let them run the show and have no parenting skills with there children at all! It’s scary 🤐 I guess I’m the authority figure and “bad guy” cause I will tell my child no and correct him and give him proper skills and guide lines and structure to follow to become a good citizen of the world! Actually We’re good parent’s by doing so!

@missjess I really don't know what goes on when he's at his father's... I know his father never had patience with him when we were together and didn't want to have any responsibility unless we were in public around people and he wanted to look good. The man threw a fit one night at 3am when my son was only a couple weeks old because he didn't want to change a damn diaper, he literally threw things around the room and yelled and whined about it until the cops got called....... Now whenever my son goes when him on weekends, I know damn well he's putting the responsibility off on other people, rarely is he ever alone with him because he doesn't want to take care of him.

@ladyblauvelt.skysmomma, I feel the same way. I don’t know for sure exactly what goes on. I just go off the little evidence I have and what I witnessed when I lived with him and how I know how he is as a person. Its a shame our kids are treated with such neglect. It’s not right. Wait till my son can talk and he’s fully exposed cause then his ass is really in trouble. I won’t stand for that if my child is telling me he isn’t being cared for properly

@missjess I'm waiting for the same thing, once my son can talk and starts telling me what goes on, if it's as bad as I think it is I'm going for full custody... Right now I want to do that because he's not keeping up with his weekend visitation and lieing about why he can't pick his son up even though he's still dumb enough to post what he's doing on his Facebook where I can see it with my old profile.

@ladyblauvelt.skysmomma, yeah my sons father doesn’t come for half his visitations either but he blocked me on Facebook lol 🧐 I have full physical custody of my son. I’d love to go back though and get rid of all the visitations he never comes for so he can’t just keep coming and going as he pleases when it convenient for him 🙄

@missjess, my kids used to come home smelling terrible. And I know ALLLLLL about ruined clothing!!! So many times they’ve come home with ruined things. So, I started sending their play clothes only, nothing nice and absolutely nothing new. Thankfully I always know what’s going on when he has them, my kids keep NO secrets from me. They tell me everything.

@mblodgett922202, yeah i only send play clothes now too. He would ruin brand new really nice clothes and I’d flip out and he would never reply or be like stuff happens 🙄 I CAN’T wait till my son can tell me what goes on because a lot of what goes on his father tries to hide everything. And he lies about every single thing about my son and it’s like that’s not right. I’m nice enough to inform him of his medical needs and things that are going on with him in the hopes that he will take care of him and he can’t have the decency to be honest about anything cause he wants to make himself look like the god like father and he looks like a fool is what. I know my child!

@missjess, I don’t like to bash on my ex. Our kids adore him. However. A few months ago my 9 year old daughter had strep throat. I sent her to him with her antibiotics on ice for his weekend (my fiancé and I drive to CT from PA once a month for his visits) and he didn’t give it her ONCE! She needed it twice a day and he didn’t bother with it once the whole weekend. I was livid.

@mblodgett922202, yeah my son has a severe allergy to wheat and he has a dairy sensitivity so he has a really strict diet and sometimes I wonder if his father really follows it. He never bothers to go to any doctor appointments and I get whatever paper info I can get to give to him but other wise it’s just word to mouth. I just can’t with the guy. He’s impossible. I don’t get why it’s so hard to just properly take care of your child?! That lazy?! Damn I barely get any sleep, I work and take care of my house chores, myself my baby and everything else. Especially my child first! I got up at 6:45am today just to vacuum because I had to work this morning until right before he was going to get home. And I scrubbed my floors last night right after I got out of work. It’s called being a parent! I wasn’t about to let my child come home to a dirty house. Idk maybe I’m overly critical? I just think hygiene and cleanliness are big things. Some of these men are just oblivious to real parenting! My sons father could use a few classes 🤐