I need advice. So I want to adopt but my husband said he can't do it. Here are my reasons.
I need advice. So I want to adopt but my husband said he can't do it. Here are my reasons.
I was always told that I wouldn't be able to have a baby. Well I did get pregnant and my son is now 4 years old and doing great but I'll tell ya, being pregnant about killed me. I was in and out of the hospital and deathly ill the whole time. Ended up with an emergency c section.
Fast forward to the beginning of this year, I got pregnant again. Was so so so sick and miscarried about 14 weeks in. My body hasn't been the same since and I've been having problems I didn't have before. I am also 2 years out from gastric sleeve (weight loss) surgery.
Anyway, my husband now wants to try again for another baby. I also want to have another baby more than anything. But what he doesn't understand is that I dont want to try and get pregnant again. I really do not think that I can handle it. I feel like I cannot physically handle being pregnant again.
Now he is mad and blaming my weight loss surgery on this (and my miscarriage) and will not even entertain the idea of adoption... I am at a loss... I've spent the last few days crying. He went even talk to me about it...
MassMomma16·
What about a surrogate??
Jasmine·
Мама сына (4 года)
@masseymomma16 I looked into that and its crazy expensive
Penelope ·
Maybe speak with a dr, and have your husband join? I didn’t think it’s recommended being on the sleeve, and then ttc.
Jasmine·
Мама сына (4 года)
@penelope127 no it's okay to get pregnant a year out from sleeve surgery. People actually have sleeve surgery to get pregnant. It's just my body can't handle it
Penelope ·
@jazzercise788, oh ok. I follow someone that got it done, and it wasn’t recommended to her unless she was done having kids. I don’t know any of her medical history if there were other things involved too.
Maybe the dr needs to tell him though your body can’t handle it. Maybe hearing from a professional will help him understand.
Jasmine·
Мама сына (4 года)
@penelope127 yeah maybe. I'm going to call my doctor on Monday and see what they say
Cams ·
What happened during your first pregnancy that was so bad besides the emergency section?
Willow Gray·
Not his body, not his choice.
Mimi·
You can’t exactly force someone who wants a biological child to want to adopt some people just aren’t for adoption. If you had sleeve surgery two years ago were you overweight with your first pregnancy? What were your complications? I could totally see where your husband is coming from if you guys wanted more children and now your just saying no you want to adopt because you didn’t enjoy pregnancy. I’m assuming if your doctors told you that you weren’t medically fit that your husband wouldn’t pressure you.