So this may be a long story but my SO and I took my kids to their friends birthday party today and…
So this may be a long story but my SO and I took my kids to their friends birthday party today and the parents are some of our old drinking buddies. Well the kids and I went inside and I was tending to the baby and showing her off and a woman that used to go around bad mouthing us shows up. My SO was outside drinking and having a good time and I’m stuck inside with this woman and a bunch of loud music and a very cranky baby, everytime I tried to bring her outside some drunk or high idiot would get all in my business so I was basically forced inside. I went out to tell SO to take me and the baby home and he did but once we got home I just had a meltdown because he gets to go out with his friends and no responsibilities and I’m expected to stay home by myself and tend to the kids and the house and everything that comes with it. I would just like to be able to go somewhere and not be completely ignored by him or go somewhere and not have to tend to all the kids for once, he’s up his friends asses when we visit with them and then once I get mad he stops but once we go back it’s the same thing all over again. I feel like I’m alone in this because if he’s not working he’s running around with his friends or “relaxing” and I’m just fed up, I was the one bringing in the money at one point and I still had to come home and clean, cook, and take care of the kids all while being pregnant. He does help to a point and I normally have to get mad at him for not helping and it’s just getting old. Sorry for the long post I just needed to vent through my meltdown.. 😩😭
angelfoodcake·
Talk with him about helping you more when y'all are out and about. Maybe plan a girls outing as well. I understand
Chels Z·
Have you communicated to him how you feel when you’re not mad? One thing I always have to remind myself of is that my husband can’t read my mind and he tends to tune me out if I’m trying to talk to him while I’m extremely ticked off. I had a similar problem with my husband in the beginning. We would go places and he would go off and socialize and leave me with them. After getting upset a few times and allowing it to really get under my skin, I calmly communicated to him how I felt and he said he always lets me handle the kids because I take charge and make him feel like he’s in the way when he tries to step in. Now when we go places, we split the kids up. He’s in charge of one and I’m in charge of the other.
Ciara Jade·
@angelfoodcake, i would but since I’ve gotten pregnant and had my new baby everyone’s kind of left so I don’t really have a whole lot of girl friends.
Ciara Jade·
@chelseaz, I have and we’ve had talks about these things but after a few weeks he does the same thing. He will be great and actually listen and help but only for a little while.
Chels Z·
@cjl020415, maybe try splitting up the responsibility when you go hang out with friends? You can just tell him exactly what you need from him on the way there and see what his response is.