Im so heartbroken right now ladies. So today while im asleep, my man decides to go thru my phone, he…
Im so heartbroken right now ladies. So today while im asleep, my man decides to go thru my phone, he know my code because i have nothing to hide. So every morning he gives me a kiss and says i love you before he leaves for work and this morning i woke up and realized he was already gone. When i go to my test messages to text him, i see a screenshot that he sent himself of me having a conversation with a guy whom i grew up with, we lived on the same block for years when i was younger. So anyways the guy writes to me and asks how im doing and i say good, how are you. He says hes good and continues to ask me if im still with my sons father, i answered back and said no why are u asking ? (I thought he was asking to try and get in contact with him or sumtn since they also noe eachother) then he says “oh i never got the chance to take u out” and i replied, i doubt that im having a baby and i ended the conversation by blocking him. Well now my boyfriend is making a huge deal telling me that hes not stupid and that im cheating and all this crap and i told him that i was sorry and that im not cheating or doing anything wrong and i also reminded him that he forgot to leave me money to eat(hes working, im not because of my high risk pregnancy) so he then says oh tell him to take care of you. I havent wrote back or said anything since, i dont feel like that conversation was wrong at all, i cant control what guys write to me, i can only control what i say. And also i feel as if he is doing this on purpose because lately hes been like oh i noe u cheating, im gonna find out and asking me “who is he” and stuff like that. So now im sitting here with no food, no money and he got out of work at 12 today but isnt home yet. And also when i told him that this isnt a reason for him to leave he goes” if i wanted to leave your ass i wouldve been done it, i noe where the door is, you noe that i have no problem leaving”. He sleeps with his phone under him, takes him phone everywhere, he would put his phone to charge and it wouldnt turn on yet and he will take it off the charger just to go to the store and i dont say nothing about that ! Im just so sad right now, i cant stop crying.
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Your conversation with the guy sounds pretty innocent.sometimes those who accuse are the ones doing the cheating.
Allyson Almeda·
My boyfriend does the same thing to me sometimes, it was partially my fault because I went to hang out with an ex one night when him and I first started dating but there was no intention of anything and I even asked his permission and he said to go but then made a huge deal and has never let it go but if you haven't ever done a thing then maybe he's accusing you because he's guilty of something himself...?
Brie·
Мама сына (3 года), беременна (22 нед.)
@michellemybell09, exactly, i didnt agree to go out with him or said anything flirtacious. Once he said he never got a chance to take me out i said i doubt that im having a baby and thats it. Thats what my sister is telling me. Shes telling me that hes the one hiding something but i dont accuse him of any of that
Brie·
Мама сына (3 года), беременна (22 нед.)
@ladyblauvelt.skysmomma, ive never cheated or flirted or anything. Im always waiting on him to come home from work and anywhere i go hes there. He noes my passcode and i noe his but he always changes it, mines is always the same and he always has his phone right next to him faced down, i dont say anything about it
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@briealyus, maybe you need to find out if he is some how. He sounds like he is putting a guilty conscious on you and if he is super close with his phone and doesn’t leave it around is really sketchy on his part. Does he have a passcode on his phone?
Brie·
Мама сына (3 года), беременна (22 нед.)
@taylorsmommy1017, whenever i ask him about he says he will never do that especially when im having his baby and all this crap but i can feel that hes doing smething wrong i just havent checked for myself because im trying to trust him but idk anymore
Lanie Jay·
The fact that he feels the need to go through your phone means you have bigger problems than him accusing you of cheating.
Allyson Almeda·
@briealyus yeah.. I'm afraid he may be hiding things himself 🙁 he can say he'll never do anything like that but it's just words...
Leah·
I agree with @laniejay. If he also left you without food/money for food while you're pregnant that's kinda a red flag to me. Seems like he's trying to control you.
Brie·
Мама сына (3 года), беременна (22 нед.)
@taylorsmommy1017, he gets out of work at 12 and hasnt been home and i think he took some clothes with him idk but i refuse to text him and i havent eaten at all. We were suppose to go food shopping today but he has gotten here or tried to text me or anything
Anna·
I was with someone like this except they never went through my phone but they acted childish would ignore me all day leave without saying bye he even took all the remotes to the TVs so I couldn’t watch anything and this was years ago before I had a car or anything sounds like a manipulator I’d leave
Krystal James·
Мама сына (2 года), беременна (30 нед.)
It sounds like he’s the one cheating and he’s trying to find a reason to leave you
Rose Cook ·
Мама сына-младенца
I’m sorry you’re going through this... it really is confusing and heartbreaking to be in this type of situation. I’ve been there myself, and it feels terrible. But my suggestion would be to get to the underlying problem... I think the best and most mature way to handle it would be to try and contact him and see if your able to calmly have a conversation about the whole thing, and I would also make it fair by going through his phone too to see why he’s so ready to put blame on you. Sounds really complicated try to stay positive hun :(
Annika·
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First off, i am so sorry you're going through this, its pretty ludicrous as it was a normal conversation and you've explained why to him, and even blocked the guy. Ok, so something VERY similar happened to one of my friends. He kept accusing her of cheating, to the point he saw her with another guy driving in town, and freaked out on her about that. It was her cousin.. lol. Turns out her boyfriend was the cheating scumbag. He who cheats accuses of the same behaviours sometimes. And that suspicious phone things he's doing with his helps lead me to believe that.
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He’s cheating.
Brie·
Мама сына (3 года), беременна (22 нед.)
@the.real.og, @swedishmomma, @akcatprincess, @mommytoaprinceandaprincess, @annarizzo123, @taylorsmommy1017, soo ladies he came home yesterday after work and started to question but was smiling as he was asking me and i explained myself again and even apoligized if he thought it was wrong and then i reminded him of what he has put me thru and what i have found in the past and how i forgave him and got over it and he asked if theres anything else he needs to know and i told him no, he has my passcode! And he just hugged me but now hes all over me and even follows me to the bathroom and everything, i guess hes feeling insecure or something but watever i have nothing to hide. But what im going to do is let some time go by and im gonna check his phone to see if hes the guilty one! I want to thank you ladies for the advice, i have noone and no friends so its really nice of you guys to help me out!
Anna·
@briealyus, if he loves you he will give you trust and space don’t feed into it by checking his phone that makes you stoop to his level relationships need trust and you don’t deserve to be treated that way he needs to grow up if you truly cares about you hun
Annika·
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@the.real.og I'm in 100% agreement. This is back pedaling behavior at it's finest. Seen this before 😐