help from dad Those of you who ebf, how does dad help at night? I'm feeling a bit overwhelmed and…

Since there's no sense in both of us losing sleep, my so helps out more during the day so I can nap after nursing and catch up on sleep.

I would sometimes have him bring the baby to me and after I nursed he would change the diaper and put the baby back to bed. Not all the time though. I am home full time and he is the sole breadwinner in our family. He can also function with less sleep than me. It's best to communicate openly. You'll find what works after some trial and error.

Well I have no advice. My husband has been off of work for 2 weeks supposed to be helping out and has been a total pos and useless. He was way different with our first. I'm disgusted. Sorry I needed to get that off my chest! But you can always pump a bottle before bed?

It was suggested to me that you give dad a thing that’s exclusively for dad. A few moms suggested that bath time works well for that. I also told hubby that I will happily wake him after feeding if she needs her diaper changed.

At least yours wants to help lol with our first baby he just slept through baby crying and didn’t even hear it (apparently), we’ll see what happens this time ?

My husband is working and he works 14 hour days so I do it all at night. I pump and give him a bottle since he won’t latch so he COULD help but so far I’m doing ok on my own. I actually prefer it. We have an 8 year old and 4 year old also that he does everything for right now so that’s a huge help. Sometimes I do feel overwhelmed and I will just ask for him to feed but it’s rare. He actually hasn’t even changed a single diaper ??‍♀️ but like I said he’s taking care of the older 2 full time when he’s home.

I did it all myself with our first. I figured there's no point in making him get up just to hand the baby to me...

This time, i'm gonna let him take care of our toddler while i tend to baby

He gets up to change her and puts her back in the bassinet after I've fed her. Yeah there's not much he can do in helping to feed her at 3am but even just doing those couple things help tremendously.

Eh I don't really wake up, I just pop my boob out and latch and go back to bed. Yup, I co sleep and half the time I have to wake her up to eat ??‍♀️ my fiancé tho....worthless at night. I change and feed and he snores. I usually kick him and if he wakes up and asks if I do, I deny it ?? if I can't sleep, I'm going to make sure he isn't sleeping the greatest ?? this is our third so I'm over him being lazy for night time crap. Oh well ??‍♀️??‍♀️

@squatch lol you're hilarious ?

Okay ladies, thanks for the info. Might have to have him start changing diapers ? I at least need something.

There's nothing they really can do. I would make him watch the kids during the day and make them breakfast and I would make sure I got a nap. It's kinda just being a mom ??‍♀️

Diaper changes and if munchkin wakes up and is completely awake, daddy hangs out with him. We take turns unless he has a long day at work, then i do everything at night.