My SD got to go to her grandma's house for visitation like she asked over the weekend. Got a good…
My SD got to go to her grandma's house for visitation like she asked over the weekend. Got a good bit of crazy from her mom, but the adults handled it. Then my SD told her my, to her face, that she does not want to go with her mom alone because she's crazy and mean to the people she cares about and she doesn't feel safe alone with her. Her mom's reaction TO HER 9YR OLD was "I haven't been crazy, but I can show you crazy!!" But my sd stood her ground and didn't give in. I'm so very proud of her for standing up for herself. I hate that she can't have a relationship with her mom, but that's her mom's fault not nobody else's. She's starting to move on from blaming herself for the way her mom treats her and that's wonderful.
Dani B·
Мама сына-младенца
That’s amazing! I’m sorry she has to have a mother like that but I’m so glad she’s so young but knows how she should be treated. It took me until I was 14 to do what she did. I’m also glad that she has you in her life to be there for her!
That Bartender Girl·
I almost cried reading this! I'm so glad she got to go to grandma's for her visit! I'm so glad she put on her big girl pants and faced down her mom! This kid is going to move mountains some day!!!
Julia Boles·
Мама троих детей
@db413 thank you! I love that girl to death. We've had her in therapy since we got custody to help her get past her issues. We had some idea what caused them, but we were shocked to find out the extent of it. She has made so much progress in the past year, but this is the biggest leap she has made.
Julia Boles·
Мама троих детей
@sassybitch I know!!! I hate that she has to do it, but I'm so proud that she can now.
Dani B·
Мама сына-младенца
@tiredmom, you’re doing a great job! And just make sure she feels no shame in cutting her mom out of her life if that’s what she chooses. I did it at 14 and went into therapy myself after that. Now it’s been 11 years since I’ve seen or spoken to my mother and I’m doing great! So I hope that her realizing this at such a young age will be wonderful for her!
Julia Boles·
Мама троих детей
@db413 we are supporting any decision she makes regarding people she wants to be around. I do not believe in forcing children to be around people they don't feel safe with. I'm so grateful that her grandmother stands up for her too and provides the supervision for visitation. I just really hope that her mom will start working on herself so she can have a relationship with her daughter.
Dani B·
Мама сына-младенца
@tiredmom, like I said you guys are doing an amazing job! And I hope her mother works on it too. But if not then she has an amazing stepmother to provide that motherly support and love ❤️
Tracee·
Мама сына (1 год)
Sounds like you’re doing a great job with her! She’s comfortable and strong enough to stand up for herself, including being honest to her mom. That’s going to take her far. Keep doing what you’re doing!👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾