Is it natural for sex to not happen sometimes in a relationship? Like we use to do it twice a day…

- I think it’s pretty normal. I’m sure you’ve heard of the honey moon phase ? My ex and I hit ours early just because we were always too tired 😅 You guys should be okay without the physical ness. Communication.

@beccaaalynnn11, It sucks! Like we use to do it a lot and he would last a long time. Well we did it this morning and it was literally like 1minute.

Totally normal. Gotta put more effort into getting it done as you get older. Everyone works, has responsibility, kids, things on their mind, other personal needs. Talk, make sure your partners other needs are met. Maybe they just want to take a nice bath or get massaged.

Its so normal, my boyfriend and I used to go twice a day everyday when we first started dating. It’s that “honeymoon phase”. We’ve been together for almost six years now and we have other things that occupy us. And by the time we lay in bed at night one of us is always already snoring. But that doesn’t mean we don’t make time for it at least once or twice (if we’re lucky) a week. It’s healthy a few times a week, but don’t let it go for months without anything. You need that physical contact with your partner🙂

@kristenmarie, No there’s no way we could go a month lol. There would definelty be something wrong if it went that long. Idk I guess I’m not use to this. I love sex with him so I want it all the time lol

- And that happens. Life happens in short. Just don’t take it personal. You get older and needs change. Completely normal. ❤️ If it bothers you that much, communicate with him. Let him know how you feel so you don’t drive yourself crazy trying to figure out why the change.

Lol smuggling. Sounds exciting @lolimedd

@lolimedd, Yeah like it dosent fell right at all. But I know it’s also not normal to have sex everyday for ever lol. I asked him why it’s like this now and he says “I’m just tired”

@beccaaalynnn11, Yes girl I’ve been driving myself nuts like feeling as if I’m not good enough or that he’s tired of the same sex. But I know that’s not what it is. He says he’s just tired. Which I get bc some nights I’d be exhausted and he’d have to pretty much force me bc I was that exhausted lol

@beccaaalynnn11, I just feel like it’s not healthy if there’s not sex at least 3 times a week lol

- Intimacy doesn’t always have to be sex.. as long as you two get some time together. And that’s how we were. Working 13 hours a day with literal fire in your face is draining. I still read into it, getting my feelings hurt, even though I knew once I got comfy I wasn’t moving 😴😅 Talking to your partner about this is all you can do.

@beccaaalynnn11, Right. But it’s like,tonight we watched a movie. We didn’t hold hands nothing he sat at one end of the couch and I was at the other. Like it’s just been weird. Idk if I’m to touchy or what

@lolimedd, What would you do?? Like it’s not just the sex. We don’t really love on each other much anymore either

My so and I have been together going on 8 years and we do it at least once a day for the most part, I could definitely go without it way longer but his sex drive is crazy even after 8 years. Sometimes I wish his would slow down. I think communication would help you get more sexy time in your relationship. Good luck

@let_there_be_life, Like I wanna have a serious talk with him but I feel like I shouldn’t have to. I don’t want him to have more sex with me just bc I said something

Very true, I get that. Sometimes I feel like men need that though to get them in gear. But definitely shouldn't be forced.

@let_there_be_life, Exactly. I’m just gonna back off and see what happens. I mean we had sex this morning but he literally lasted for 2minutes. He normally can go for a long time

@let_there_be_life, But we are suppose to go to the movies this coming up weekend so maybe that will help.bc we very rarely get a date night.

You guys need to have a conversation where you share just what you did here, that you’re thinking you’re the reason your sex life has dwindled. you can’t expect him to read your mind. Guys suck and subtleties.

@phoebesmommy, I have. I don’t expect him to read my mind?...

- Kind of just sounds like you’re growing up .. he’s comfortable enough to not need to always be touching. Idk. Talk to him.

My husband and I have been together for 9 years. We had moments like this on and off. Sometimes we rather sleep than have sex, doesn't make us boring, just that we don't want to be crabby towards our kids. Even my married friends don't have much sex (they have told me) and they don't have kids, it's all about sleeping and getting enough sleep to even have the energy to have sex!

Hubby and i used to be the same. We don’t have nearly as much sex as we’d like. But we’re always touchy feely with each other. We’re pretty sexual people though so even if we don’t have sex we’re very playful with each other.

But communication is key so definitely talk to him. Maybe try to make it funny or something and be like I just like having sex with you and I want it more.