Okay I know it's been a while since I posted but i need an honest opinion. This is kind of a long post so please hang…
Okay I know it's been a while since I posted but i need an honest opinion. This is kind of a long post so please hang with me because I need the opinion of someone unbiased. So I will fully admit, I'm not a number one mom. I'm lazy as hell but I mean my child is happy and taking care of. I don't even believe I'm a good mom. So back story so you understand my situation. I had my daughter at the age of 19, I was terrified. Had no clue what to do. I also used to be terrified of vomiting(actually trying to get over it so I refuse to admit I'm scared anymore). At the time my husband and I lived with my mil, who is a mom of 7, my husband being the youngest. So she helped me out a lot more than she should have. Emma, despite spending 80% of her time with me, for some reason bonded with my mil better. We continued to live with my mil for 2 years. We finally got an apartment of our own in the same complex. Now I like to make my daughter happy. I hate seeing her cry so as long as it isn't dangerous I usually let her do it, I still try to teach her manners though. Anyway, she has been sleeping with my mil for a while now because it's more comfortable for everyone. My husband and I share a smaller bed and I'm a big woman, Emma likes to stretch and wiggle which is hard while being cramped between my husband and I. My mil has a decent sized bed consider she is a tiny woman but Emma has the room she want and sleep way better. So my question is. Does it make me a bad mom that I let my daughter say a lot at my mils still. I mean she'll literally hang from the doorknob wanting to go over there so it makes it hard to say no. I can't give everything she wants so I like to give her what I can. Oh and she absolutely will not sleep in her own bed. When my hubby and I get the money saved up we're going to buy a different mattress to see if that helps because she's never liked her crib. I assume it's the mattress. So anyway does that make me a bad mom?
Pic of my little wigglebutt, passed out, before I knew it, after a busy day.
Brooke ·
I think that it's fine to have breaks and accept help when it's needed but I also think that she is your baby not your mil baby. She also is 2 years old so getting her to sleep at your house is your priority. I couldn't let my son stay away from his parents for more than a night or two let alone every time we all sleep. Some nights all 4 of us are in my full size bed but we work with it because I am there mom and they are my responsibility.
R🦖·
- Personally, I don’t have a mil so I’m thinking of my mom .. I would love for my child and mother to have that bond. I’m really close to my grandma, maybe closer than I am with my mom. But if my baby chose her over me, it would break my heart! I don’t see a problem with it though, especially if you work a lot! Whatever works. Your situation would kill me. But it’s not mine. And you seem to be okay with it. But definitely do a transition from mil to home more. Slowly. Good luck! 💕
deleted-user·
Your not a bad mom parent how ever you want. I had a hard time getting my daughter to sleep in her own bed she slept with me until she was 2. I had to put my foot down and get her in her own bed it was hard few nights but i did it. My grandma told me "your the parent shes the kid" and those words stuck with me i haven't had any issues with my son and sleeping
🍀👑Jessica💋💍💕·
You're not a bad parent mama, you're doing the best you can. 💕😊