Anyone else feel like you need more affection? Like during sex and such? 😮

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@pnkbuttaflies I absolutely hate it. Makes me feel unattractive or something. He doesn't give me oral, doesn't do any foreplay. Just straight to the point. I've tried talking to him about it, he says he will improve and then doesn't.

😐 oh hell no. Might as well do it alone. That just sounds awful.

@kambam exactly. I do it alone more than we actually do it together. I try to mention freaky things and he acts as if I'm weird

Has he EVER been freaky?

@kambam Not really! We have been together 4 years and he's given oral maybe 5 or 6 times. Foreplay has never really been a thing for him either, which drives me nuts. He seems more focused on getting himself off than to please me. When I do mention it he thinks that I pretty much say his sex is bogus but in a way it is!! I know he could do way better, it's just like he doesn't want to or doesn't care to. No matter what I do to him.

He's just sexually immature. How old is he?

Does he expect oral from you and not give in return? Because that's just rude. It sounds like he's being very selfish. He's going to get his nut regardless. A person who cares about your sexual needs would want to make sure you are taken care of in a way that you enjoy. He's basically using your body to get off instead of making sure you are both pleased in the end.

@kambam He's 23! @muva.tings Yes he asks me for oral all the time!! He doesn't talk dirty, nothing. Different from any other man I've ever been with. It's extremely frustrating.

Yes!!! All the time!

@tayler he wants oral all the time and isn't returning the favor? girllllll you are stronger then me he would not be touching the back of my throat lmao. He's 23 and fucking like hes 15 only seeking a way for him to get off. I promise you the issue is no one else ever complained.

That's still young, unfortunately. Even older men I've been involved with can be ignorant sometimes. He's gotta learn or NO SEX 🙅🗣

- ☝🏻☝🏻☝🏻 He’s gotta learn or no sex! If you aren’t feeling it, all the affection you want, then 🙅🏻‍♀️🙅🏻‍♀️🙅🏻‍♀️

Yes!! I hate it

Try telling him what to do during sex! Something about in the moment is different. Then if he does it and sees how you react/get turned on he might be motivated to try harder... I understand exactly how you feel I had a bf and he would ask for oral and say he would give me oral if I did it 3 times. But out of 4 years he only did it 6 times. And he cried and whines when he was down there the whole time because his jaw hurt 😒 and now a days guys know nothing about foreplay! I didn’t even know that existed or that my vagina could get wet until my recent SO lol sometimes being honest helps too. If he wants to be a dick tell him sex isn’t doing it for you and you guys need to try something new or you won’t want to have it anymore. I’m sorry about the oral. That never changes I feel like but hopefully everything will be okay!!!!

@sierrapw23 I'll definitely try telling him during sex. Once before during sex I had forced his hand down to my vagina to rub it while he was doing his thing lol and nope he took his hand right back after a min and told me to touch myself while we did it ... which sometimes I do but I'd like for him to touch me more. Because at this point I'm not even getting off anymore, and I hate feeling like we are missing something but that's exactly what I feel like..

@tayler, I understand. He needs to try harder if he does love you

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All the time.

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Push his head down and tell him to go down on you! Men do it, why can’t we? If he refuses, then tell him to get creative and do something down their or you’re pulling out your vibrator. If he is more compliant you can even pull his hand down and guide it how you like to be touched. I remember my husband, while experienced with a lot, just wasn’t getting it how I liked it down there. I guided him a few times and it was pretty great. He has the hang of it now though, however we tend to go off on other adventures.