Gotta vent bit, how can someone be a good parent to 1 baby but not even see the other child of…
Gotta vent bit, how can someone be a good parent to 1 baby but not even see the other child of theirs.... like I'm friends with aiyannas father's gf on Facebook and she just had a baby his too mind you aiyanna is only 4months and she keeps posting pictures of him and their baby and I can't help but be annoyed by it. Don't get me wrong I'm glad he's being a good dad to her but I wish he would at least see aiyanna. No she wasn't planned but does that make her less to him or something since now he has a new baby. Is that 1 mean more to him or what??? Ugh and yes I unfollowed her just so he doesn't keep popping up on my newsfeed to annoy me even more... me and her are on good terms I just want my daughter to have her dad...
rebecca ·
@bitchcraft she has got him to talk to me bit about our daughter but he always backs out on seeing her.. there's only so much she can do ultimately it is his choice not hers though 😥
cantdeletebutimgone·
I would say if you and her are not good terms. Talk to her about when he visits the new baby see if she'll be okay with you being there with your daughter so he could spend time with both of them. The most important thing is that those two little girls have a relationship.
rebecca ·
@mommiesaremagical14 she literally just had their baby is in hospital and they live together lol and she told me I could bring her up when ever I wanted but just feels like if I do that I'll be forcing him to see her and not him wanting to see her
cantdeletebutimgone·
I completely understand, maybe you can give it a little time and when the baby gets home you could start going over to visit the baby. Perhaps twice a week. You wouldn't be forcing him to spend time with your daughter cuz you're there to visit the baby. 😉 it sucks that he's being such a twat waffle towards your daughter. I'm sorry that you're going through that and you're right you can't force him but you could just happen to be there.
rebecca ·
@mommiesaremagical14 right but since I know his work schedule I can easily make it when he's not there and I don't even know the address but oh well she turns a year before he's involved with her I'll make him go to court and figure something out since he's not on birth certificate it makes it hard for him to do anything to get visitation but way I see it if he wants to see her I won't stop it but won't force it either
cantdeletebutimgone·
@s.rebecca52 that's a good way to look at it. It does suck but he is being that way but it's his decision and it's his loss.
rebecca ·
@fuhgeddaboudit she's happy with just me and her brothers so it's fine it just annoys me not like to her it matters just yet
rebecca ·
@fuhgeddaboudit right in future it's going to cause jealousy between them and she's going to wonder same things I already do
Lanie Jay·
If she was just born- wait. Usually if a man will abandon one, he won’t stick around for another. And don’t judge by what you see on fb. Fb is a glimpse at one second. And those who post so much are usually trying to make life seem like something it isn’t. I had a friend who, on FB, seemed to have this perfectly amazing life. When I found out the truth I was horrified. I know a few people who I knew the true story and it’s far from what they project on FB. Focus on your baby. Get him on child support (because who files first matters) and screw him.
rebecca ·
@laniejay I don't want his name on her birth certificate so I'll let it be and our state moms automatically have custody father's have to prove mom unfit to get the child but I know her life isn't amazing they have some of same issues me and him had and he didn't even tell his gf about our daughter until HIS brother told her I was pregnant and she had to question it... but it still just annoys me that's why I unfollowed her so this way I can't see it to be annoyed