So moms how do you discipline your two year olds ?
My sons been terrible this week. Not listening. Throwing fits. Screaming when I say no. Telling me no. Biting. The whole works.
I’ve tried time out (putting him in a playpen for a few mins and letting him cry )
I’ve tried talking to him and also ignoring him.
I’ve tried yelling
I’ve tried removing him from the situation.
I’ve tried making him take a nap.
Do you guys have any suggestions ?
Other than spanking. We’re a no hitting household here.
@danielzamor2007, You & I are quite alike i this aspect. My husband is very strict and can be a hard ass. We have 2 boys, expecting a 3rd boy, so I doubt that it will change. our oldest is 7 1/2 and he is a great student, in 1st grade already at educational level of a 4-5th grader, and his teachers always commend us on how respectful and helpful and well behaved he is especially cause we are very young parents, I'm 23 my husband will be 25 next month.
& When we are out we get compliments from strangers m, usually elderly, abt how good he is compared to kids they see now a days lol
Aside from disciplining him, I always talk to him to make sure he understands why he gets in trouble when he does and he always does.
We also ground him, like no electronics or something for more serious things but I think he has only been grounded like twice and it's usually after he spend time with his cousin who is a year older but thinks she is like 16 and has a very smart ass mouth and bad attitude so I only really allow them to hang out if they are with us cause we don't play that.
@ivyjayde That's pretty much how my husband and I run things with our kids... I'm a little bit more lenient- and he's very strict, but for the most part we're on the same page... It all works for us- (my step daughter) she's 16- she's a cheerleader and a straight A student, my son and my step son are Honor roll students and good boys too.. So obviously we'll raise our youngest the same... I can't stand a kid that has a "smart mouth" that's one thing I will not tolerate... I always say "I'm not my child's friend, I'm their parent... My job is to keep them safe and give them the best life I can ... But- don't take my kindness for weakness- bc I'm a firm believer in discipline... And one day when my kids are grown, with a career and living on their own- I'll still be their mother, I'll still help guid them- but I'll then also be their friend" It's just us!
@danielzamor2007, I did the same with my oldest, the 1 yr old is still a little too young.
But my oldest would bite and pull hair and I would do it back but communicate with him also asking if he liked when I did it back and if course he said no, so I would then ask him why would he do it to someone else? He never did it again after the first time lol
I also pop the hand.
and do time out depending on what exactly they are doing my husband and I have different methods for different actions they do.
@modom16 Bc she kept doing it and my mom and grandmother said I used to do it all the time too- until my mom bit me back... Don't judge my parenting- I'm old school... I'm a firm believer in old fashion ass whoopings... I don't play that nice redirection game... It's just my way of parenting, and it works great for us... I even told her pediatrician and she agreed with me... Just my way of doing things.
@danielzamor2007, why on earth would you bite your child to teach them not to bite??
I know when it comes to toys. Throwing or standing on them. I have an 18 month old boy who loves to climb and throw things. So we actually do a toy time out. Put the toys in our room for a period of time :)
I Know you say you're a no hitting household- but what works for us- is a warning, then if that doesn't work a smack on her hand... She was a bitter (big time) I bit her back and that was that... That's just us tho.
@mtatlock02, say they’re throwing a fit because a toy isn’t doing what they want. Pick them up and put them with another toy.
Another thing that works sometimes is just ignoring the tantrums
@ivyjayde Yes, we're on the same page! 😀 That's exactly how we are... We make sure to communicate first, and if that doesn't work we more on to some sort of discipline... All of our kids we have in Catholic schools- we appreciate the way they direct the Children to be respectful, and the fact our kids learn about God and so on...
We've always been told how respectful our kids are, and that they're so polite... My son Dominic has made student of the month plenty of times- and was so proud to make it in the schools paper...
I don't down anyone's parenting, but back in the day- you didn't hear of school shootings and everything we have going on now... Parenting these days seems like parents bare too lenient and allowing their kids to make decisions a little too much on their own...
I'm the parent- I make the decisions for my children... I will give them choice's , they then can pick one- but no more than that... I also believe in chores and teaching responsibility- starting at a young age... My almost 2yr old even knows to cleanup her mess and she helps me with small house duties...
In the end all this hard work is rewarding bc our children will be civilized productive people!