Stay at home mom (SAHM) depression.... The elephant in the room nobody talks about ☹ I mean, how…
Stay at home mom (SAHM) depression....
The elephant in the room nobody talks about ☹️
I mean, how DARE you complain after being gifted this opportunity to stay at home and raise YOUR own kids 🤦🏽♀️ but it's not that simple. Of course we SAHM's are being grateful to stay home and raise our young BUT that it's literally all we become.
No one talks about the isolation.
No one talks about the loss of identity.
No one talks about the loneliness.
No one talks about losing your sense of self.
No one talks about how you had to give up your career because it's cheaper for you to stay home.
No one talks about how you cry in the shower because your day was overwhelming.
No one understands why you're tired.
No one understands why you're irritable.
No one understands why you need a mental break.
No one understands why you're so aggravated with your kids.
No one understands why after you've been home all day, the house is a wreck still.
No one understands why you just need 5 minutes with no one speaking to or touching you.
No one understands why you've lost your sex drive.
No one understands why you're completely & utterly exhausted, after all, you just sit at home all day 😒
No one understands the feeling you have when you are told you don't have a "real job".
Most of us were working women at one point. We got to go to a job and interact with other adults outside our home. We contributed financially to our household. (Shoot, most of us want some kind of side hustle or part time job because it would sure help with financial relief) We didn't feel like an endless maid. We got that break away (even though yes, work is a love/ hate relationship) that gives you space from the people you live with (children, spouse... Etc) because yes, EVERY relationship needs time away in it to not go crazy being around each other 24/7. That's not healthy. Contrary to popular belief...
YOU👏NEED👏A👏 BREAK 👏 DAILY 👏
I can't tell you how many women I meet or know that say "oh, you have to much time on your hands" "I sure wish I could stay home, I wouldn't complain" good for you! I can guarantee you will change your mind 6 months in, unless you're wealthy and have money to constantly go do things. I once was you. I wish upon a damn star I could start home with my kids because I wanted to spend all the time I could. I didn't realize what all came with being a SAHM.
Oh but YOU chose to have those kids. YOU should've thought about that before having them. If you didn't want to go through all this YOU should've never had kids. & YOU said you want more????
Seriously.... Yup, heard those all before.
Next time you hear or see a SAHM venting her frustrations, listen and make her feel like she's somebody. That her struggles are not invalid. You know just because she don't have a "real job.
⚠️Thank you Momma's Tired for writing this! You definitely hit the nail on the head with this!!!!!
_Sheriee·
Мама двоих (младенец)
Wow! This is so on point
Frances Reed·
Yo mama·
This is the realest thing I have ever read. Just yesterday I had a break down because I feel like my house is never clean enough, all I do it cook and clean and wipe asses. Struggling to find time for cleaning, cooking, teaching the kids, giving them each enough attention, having fun and other daily chores plus giving my husband attention when he gets home.. I don’t know why I have 3 and decided to add another. I have no friends in this state. I am lonely because my husband works all the time. Life is hard. I cried because I can’t be the perfect mother and wife I want to be. I thought I’m just not good enough. That everyone deserves better than what I am giving. My kids get me so frustrated that I yell and then feel horrible about it. It is exhausting. It is though. And unless you do it. Nobody will ever understand the struggle.
Krista ·
Мама троих детей
This is awesome I’m defiantly showing hubby when he gets off work
Mrs. Rodrigues·
Love this post. 100% on point!
A·
Мама сына (2 года), беременна (25 нед.)
I've been both a working mom and a stay at home mom and they're both sooooo rough in different ways. Being a mom is such a tough job! Props to all the mamas!
Mandi Archuleta ·
Мама четверых детей
This!!!! I've been a sahm for 9 years already and I dont see an end in sight for at least 4 years , until my last is in school. The worst part I have such anxiety about actually getting a job! I think the loss of identity is the worst part for me. I'm no one to the outside world besides their mom and his wife. The second worst part is my husband doesn't understand why I cling to him the only actual adult I really see in all day when he gets home. Also all of my kids teachers probably think I bug because when I talk to them it can be a quick 2-3 mind conversation cause I know they have stuff to do or I like to drag out the conversation cause it's the only real conversation I'll have with an actual adult that day.
Pp, No one here says or believes that being a working mom is easy! Being a working mom and then having to do what we do is just as hard as being a sahm. This post is to shed light on sahm's though. Not at all about working moms.
If You Know, You Know🤷🏻♀️·
@president.mommy.on.board., yaaassssd honey! I could not have said it better myself!
Megan ·
💜 this!
melissa·
AMEN!!!!👏👏👏👏👏
Mar La💋·
Мама сына (2 года), беременна (39 нед.)
Wooowwwwwwww!!! ♥️♥️😩🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾 anybody else screenshot and sent it to everyone in their phone lol words I’ve been wanting to say but had no way of explaining! Thank you for this!!!
Ashley McKinney ·
Мама троих детей
Well said
Brooke Hickman ·
Yes!!!
My husband tells me my depression and anxiety is all in my head and i need to get over it all... if only it was that easy.
Davine Bee·
Мама сына (2 года), беременна (7 нед.)
Exactly how i feel.... right on point
Vivianne Soto·
This is literally all me in a but she’ll. 😭❤️
Little Mommy ·
Yes. So much yes. My husband comes home from work midday and takes a nap, or leaves work early and goes to the shooting range, or goes to the gym, or goes away for a weekend to hang out with his friends but yet whenever I’d like to do something for myself he is busy “working”. Occasionally I can sneak off to the store while he gets DD ready for bed but I can’t go to a yoga class in the middle of the day or take a weekend girls trip. He assumes I have plenty of chill time so why should he offer me a break? I obviously don’t work as hard... 🙄🙄
Michelle ·
Мама дочки (4 года), беременна (27 нед.)
This is exactly how I feel. And since I’ve been pregnant it makes me feel even worse about my messy house. I can’t keep up, and feel like I’ll never catch up. I feel so often that people judge me for not having a real job, especially since I have my masters but chose to stay home until my kids are grown. The worst though for me is the isolation. I feel so alone sometimes.
But I also know that while SAHMs make a lot of sacrifices, so do working moms. Most working moms got to work all day and then come home for their second shift at home with their family. It’s not easy for them either.
Bottom line is being a mom is HARD work, but it’s also the most rewarding job ever. So as moms, whether SAHM or working mom, we need to spend more time encouraging each other rather than judging each other’s parenting choices.
Thanks for the great post!
Amelia Harding·
This really just made my week. I’m soooo tired of people making me feel like I do nothing at home with my kids all day for the past 5 years. I’m not good with my words but this was written PERFECTLY!