You've stated that he abuses you and screams at your daughter. And from what you've posted on this situation, he overreacted and assaulted your child's father right in front of her. None of this is remotely ok.

Please get out before he kills you, your children, or all of you. You may love him, but the way he "loves" you isn't love at all. I know it's hard because you love who he once was and you want to think you can love him back to being that person, but nothing good is going to come of this. What he did to you and what he did to your ex is abhorrent. You deserve more than this and so do your children. Love does not hurt you in this manner. Love does not lash out in this manner.

So you said this was months ago. His behavior has changed then? I doubt it seeing what he did to your ex. Has he gone to anger management? Has he stopped being an abusive fuck for a long enough time that it displays actual change and not just a thing he's doing so you stay? You are defending an abuser above ypur children. Open your eyes and see what you're doing to them!!

Reading your past posts and comments makes me believe your children will benefit better if they are removed from the home. Whether you do it or cps does it. I don’t care what your ex did or didn’t do. Your husband has had anger issues before this problem even arose. YOUR HUSBAND IS A THREAT TO YOUR CHILDREN.

1. You’re an idiot if you think that cps won’t be looking at your social media, including this, and seeing the things you’ve said about your husband.
2. If you decide to stay with this “man”, the best thing for the children is to be placed elsewhere.
3. No normal functioning adult gets into physical fights in front of young children. You just don’t.

It’s obvious that you both have some issues. No one is going to help you keep innocent children in a violent home.

You need to leave.

Maybe your daughters father was trying to protect HIS daughter! If my daughter was around a shitty ABUSIVE mom. I'd be pissed too. You and/or your Daughter will end up getting hurt eventually. And that will be on YOU!

It amazes how much you are sticking up for your husband. If my husband was in the wrong I chose to not stand by his side so he knows he messed up and what ever happened was not ok. And the fact that someone is telling you that your home is not safe and your still there knowing it's not is beyond me... so it's ok that he abused someone else this time and not you... what is it going to take for you to get out.. A mother would not hesitate to leave a situation that involves the safety of her children. My kids will always come first. Your selfish is my eyes and your husband is a pos. Your not thinking about your kids at all.

I hope that you will see that we aren’t trying to attack your husband. We just want you to see that there are literally hundreds of better ways he could have dealt with your ex. Putting a person in the hospital is never the right answer. You said you wanted us to ask questions before we made up our minds but it is difficult to do that when you have posts admitting he abuses you and you don’t trust him alone with your daughter. You’ve also had to stay with your ex before to try and separate from your husband’s abuse. And you ask your ex to take your daughter when he has verbally abused her. So on the day they were fighting, why wouldn’t your ex give you guys your daughter? In my view with your history and going to him (ex) for help, I would always be reluctant to leave my daughter there too. I’d be terrified this man would harm my daughter and after him exploding to the point of your ex needing hospitalization and surgery, if I was your ex, that would make me fight you guys harder to get my kid out of there. I don’t want you to lose your kids but more than that, I don’t want to read about another of your babies losing their chance at life at the hands of something that can be prevented by leaving. If that makes you angry to read, I apologize but it’s from a place of genuine concern for you and your littles. What he did to your ex could have been you, or your child. He needs help and you can’t love that rage and violence away

Your job as a mother is to protect your children. When you have clearly stated your husband is abusive to you and verbally abusive to your daughter, you should have left a long time ago. I know it's hard but once abuse starts it usually never stops. You have stated you don't feel that your daughter is safe around him and that her dad has to take her. So why would you be with someone that you can't protect your child from when he should be protecting you and your children. I understand you think he was "protecting" your family from your ex but he obviously can over power your ex so he could have easily gotten your ex out of the house, locked the door and called the cops.
He clearly let anger take over and became dangerous while your ex was holding your daughter, that isn't protecting. I'm sorry your going through this but you need to put your kids first or they are going to get taken away more than likely or your husband is going to do more damage. Don't stay in a relationship because he might "get better". Your strong, you're a mother and your children need you to keep them safe.

Alot all of these moms are giving you information that a legal aid would give you. leave the home with your kids be at a place away from your husband an seek an attorney while the case is being looked into it will be best for them to see that you an your kids are away from him an even better if hes seeing someone for his anger issues at the time

If you decide to stay with this poor excuse for a man, maybe it’s better that the kids go somewhere safe until you open your eyes and get some counseling for domestic abuse.

What do you want to hear? That you should stay? We should condone his abusive behavior?
I'm telling you now, it's going to get worse. Hell, from that ss^ it's already in the deadly zone.

Idgaf if my baby dad was a shitty person, I wouldn't allow a "man" to put him into the hospital in front of his child.
You should not keep condoning this shit behavior because it is going to teach your children it's okay to do when it is clearly not okay!

My oldest's bio dad witnessed his mothers abuse for years. Saw his mother in the hospital on the brink of death because "it'd get better". One day he decided it was okay to his hands on me because step dad did it and mom never left. I grabbed my Daughter and left.

You need to get out. Quit making excuses. Save your children and save yourself.

I hope for you and your children safety you open your eyes and realize how dangerous a man that can’t control his anger can be. These situations never end well. They never change. One wrong move or word can set them off. And if he can hurt a grown man that bad that easily that is truly terrifying

You're focusing on one detail and avoiding the bigger picture. I really hope you choose to get your babies some place safe.

@kai_miller, he did nothing wrong?!?! Have you magically forgotten that he abused you, caused you to miscarry, verbally abused your daughter?!?

@kai_miller, an adults job is to defuse the situation not add fire to it REGARDLESS of who started it.

@kai_miller, this may be a blessing for your children to be away from your husband bc he is abusing you and them.

So does everyone on here concidering that you want to bash my husband when he did NOTHING wrong. My ex started it NOT my husband.

@kai_miller, months, minutes, years... what does it matter! He sounds like a monster !

You yourself stated that he abuses you. He caused you to have a miscarriage. He almost threw a fork at your 7 month old baby. He assaulted your ex while your ex was holding your daughter. That is not a safe house for your kids,or for you. Call a women's shelter, call a domestic violence hotline. They will help you.

We are talking about things your HUSBAND has done in the past. No this one situation

I get that your defenses are up because you feel like your husband is being attacked. But honestly ask yourself if you feel like you and your children are safe. If the answer is no, you need to get out of there before social services does something about it. If the answer is yes, then buckle down, call every lawyer in your area, and deal with what comes.

AND that was when...? I havent been on here in MONTHS....

I’m sorry OP but I’m not sure what it is you want us to say? You stated he’s abusive. You stated he caused a miscarriage. We aren’t making this up you said this. So when he attacked your daughters father (even in defense) as a former marine he should know better. I have military family and the first thing they say is they aren’t suppose to fight people solely based on their training they’re suppose to contain the situation not escalate it. As far as what your baby’s dad did you said he went after your husband and wouldn’t stop but you somehow got it all on tape (again that’s from your comments), why wouldn’t you have called the cops and picked up your child? I’m sorry OP I would honestly advise you leave even if it’s temporary put as much distance as you can between you and your husband and then CPS will not have a case against you. Once it all blows over you can move back but unfortunately you guys are in a nasty place and I would hate for you to lose your kids. And honestly I don’t think any attorney would do this for free (I worked for an attorney and what you need is someone to get the criminal case dismissed)

Your kids would be safer out of that house. How do you not see that? You need to get some professional help. Your abuser has made you blind. So you stay with him and your daughter grows up thinking this kind of treatment is acceptable? What will you say to her when she comes home after being beaten by some guy? These are things you need to think about.

Im just going to delete my account cause everyone wants to blame my husband for something my EX did.... maybe ask questions before assuming that its my husband...

@kai_miller, oh sweetie, you do not have to stay with someone as frightening as this man. You’ve posted information about how he has done very scary things. Things do not get better or simmer down with domestic violence. They only get worse.

I would look into free lawyers good luck hun

Wow so.. now this post is about my husband...? When my ex started the whole thing...? Why do i even come on here when people are going to blame the person who was trying to do right....

Sometimes loving someone is not enough. You and your kids deserve so much more. If this man has a temper issue with your ex and yourself and child, then walk away. There are plenty of men who aren’t walking with short and explosive fuses. So I said leave him, move in with your parents and take care of your kids and your own needs.

@kai_miller i would try to google free lawyers in your area, they might be able to help! Andi think moving into your parents or friends house would probably be the safest thing so you dont chance your kids being taken away i know it would suck but having them taken away would be even bigger problems ( Honestly i feel like every one is so judgemental on here they no one really knows the situation but you)

With that being said, I agree with the person who said take the kids and move into your mom or dad’s or trusted friend so they CANT hold the fact that your husband can sometimes have trouble holding his temper over your head. (Not a knock on your hubby btw) and then move back into your house with hubby when all the dust settles

I agree w @wafflespancakes
I understand you think your ex deserved it but this is your child’s father... if there is an altercation, you call the police and protect yourself in a reasonable manner. If your husband is this volatile, your children should be taken away for their own safety if you won’t remove them from the situation.

I don’t know your situation, nor do I want to read it because sheesh these comments though, but sounds like you should just call around and maybe ask for a probono? Looks good on them cause they’re helping you out, looks good on you cause you got a lawyer

I'm coming from a place of concern, not judgment. You've made several posts about him being abusive. You don't deserve that and your babies don't deserve to see that. You obviously love him but this doesn't sound safe at all.

@jellybeans33, 😪

Do you feel safe with your husband??

Throwing plates and abusing you? Causing a miscarriage? He doesn’t sounds like a very good man

What in the hell girl 😂 you ask for help then complain people are judging you? They're being honest because they've probably been there. Help your damn self then!

Wow... never met so many judgemental people... maybe ask what my ex did before accusing my husband of being an asshole....

You've stated that he abuses you and screams at your daughter. And from what you've posted on this situation, he overreacted and assaulted your child's father right in front of her. None of this is remotely ok.

And then once its settled move back in. But do what ever u need to keep the kids in your custody. Because foster care is so much worse

It just sounds like he took it WAY to far from your post there’s protecting and then going to far out of anger and spite

Your lids come first so if i was in this situation i would take the kids and move in with my mom or dad and say to the courts that the kids dont live in the house anymore and they should drop the whole taking the kids thing but idk

@wafflespancakes so a man protecting a home isnt safe... thats good to know...

I went back and read your situation. I think you need to call around and get quotes from lawyers in your area. But I also think your husband needs to get into anger management ASAP. Quite frankly from what you've described here, I don't think he sounds safe at all.