I need some advice I don’t know if anyone can relate but my child’s dad all of a sudden wants a dna…

My oldest son’s dad asked me for a dna test once. I laughed and said “ sure, you pay for it. Do you really think I’d subject my son to you and your family if there was even a slight possibility he wasn’t yours?!?” He never brought it up again.

Tell him if he wants the test then he has to pay for it and as soon as it comes back positive file for child support and tell him he will not be in and out of her life! It's not healthy for her to have someone in and out of her life. Don't just let it go especially if he's not doing anything for the baby!

@laniejay, but it’s like why guys are like that or say things like that

@chantilly-lacebb, thanks and that is true

@ariachannell, because they’re losers. Plain and simple. He’s showing his true colors. Go to court, get a visitation agreement and child support going and don’t look back.

My ex did it to me too. He claimed he had a reason bc his ex apparently lied to him. Which he was the father of her child and he figured I was cheating on him bc he was cheating on me. He was such a jerk.

@laniejay, right umm start the process and don’t look back

@chantilly-lacebb, dang what did you say to him when accused you

We broke up when I found out bc he was telling me to get an abortion! I wouldn't do it and then he accused me of cheating and I flipped out on him. He had just cheated on me and was like I can't even look at myself.. I was like yeah but you didn't have a hard time looking at her did you?! Told him you will pay for the test and pay for his child as well. Then he called me at 32 weeks and told me I didn't deserve to be a mom bc I wasn't ready...he was the one who left me high and dry though. I still had my job and still tried to communicate with him about his child. Then I lost my son at 33 weeks and the asshole came to the hospital to make sure he passed away. Then had the nerve to tell me he left bc he was scared...I was like you have two kids already and your scared?! What about me?! I'm carrying the child and it's my first! I will never look at him the same way. I'm so much better off without him in my life. I miss my son so much but I don't have ties to the jerk. I do have two beautiful girls and my 2nd boy is on the way!

@chantilly-lacebb, aww I’m sorry you had to go through that

@chantilly-lacebb, my daughter father wanted me to get an abortion I’m like no

@ariachannell thank you. It was a bad situation all around. Im much better now and still healing but stronger than I was before. I'll never let anyone treat me that way again. My husband is amazing and don't treat me that way. Noone deserves that.

@chantilly-lacebb, hey I went a filed for child support I don’t have his last address though do you know a good website I can do a background check so I can help the process

@ariachannell hey girl! I'm so glad you filed! Check on beenverified.com. I think you get 7 days for a dollar trial and you can cancel at the end of the trial.

@chantilly-lacebb, ok thanks

@ariachannell your welcome hun!