I dread my sweet girls birthday....

My dd officially turns 3 August 15th. But it's the point where I can't stand this time of year. My cousin had her son on August 20th 5 days after I had my baby. Which is fine by me I don't care. But she just always seems she want to make their birthday parties a competition. And I really hate that it feels that way. At my daughter's first birthday party I overheard my cousin aunt and Grandma saying well his birthday party should have been first because he was originally supposed to be born first. Like I purposely had my child 5 weeks early so she would be born first. Umm no. I just hate that she tries to make me feel like crap. But I just have to keep reminding myself that I am the one providing everything for my child. I don't ask my mom or mil to help pay for anything for a birthday party. But just once I would love to out do her. Is that bad? I know I shouldn't stoop to her level but I have to admit the thought of it sounds so good. I just keep smiling like her petty crap doesn't get to me.