baby item donations I know i should be grateful of the baby stuff ive been given but all i feel like…

baby item donations

I know i should be grateful of the baby stuff ive been given but all i feel like is a charity case instead of my sil asking what colors we want for the baby or just going gender neutral or asking me anything about our plans for blankets and clothes or furniture for baby she got a cousin of hers to give me a bunch of (boy only not even gender neutral) hand me downs and it was nice of her I know but the clothes won't fit cause the baby is going to be big doc already said we'll probably skip newborn size diapers and go straight for ones. Anyways I know the gesture was nice but how she brought it up was "I asked my cousin for any baby stuff of hers for you" the tone was as if we cant afford anything for our baby or like we can't buy things for him/her one we are set on blankets I have a ton from when me and my husband were babies plus I have a couple I handmade and some handmade from family or gifts of receiving blankets from family like currently they are waiting for the gender to be revealed so dh family can go get a bunch of stuff and we actually had furniture for the baby literally everything except a carseat when we lived in Texas but when we moved we couldn't bring it so yeah now we're back at scratch but we already have furniture set aside to buy once dh gets a job (should be soon) but my sil doesn't bother to ask that, and on top of that they want us to basically have enough diapers and wipes to last from the time the baby is born till he or she is potty trained I mean there's nothing wrong with preparedness but that is just a little much and dh and I dont mind stocking up on wipes to an extent but want to wait for diapers cause of sizing and also because we don't mind running to the store to get more if/when we run out yeah I'm anti social at times but I'm honestly not in my house 24/7 never doing or going anywhere like I get we're going to be tired and etc but can you just back off a little it's our baby and we are adults we have our plans already we've had plans since before we even were close to being pregnant just feel like no one can understand our methods or logic on parenting or how mine and my dh relationship works....I'm just tired of ppl trying to control me