Dilemma DH and I have a house we own (and are making payments on) we rent it out, we don't make any…

Dilemma

DH and I have a house we own (and are making payments on) we rent it out, we don't make any money off of it and frankly renters are a pain, I HATE having renters. We live in his one of his Grandparents homes, he grew up in this home, it's beautiful but it's older and has a LOT of upkeep and it's over 6000sq ft so the electric bill is huge. Dhs grandparents will never come back here, they wanted to lock the house up and shut off the power or for us to move in and pay the bills, seems like a great deal, right? Wrong the house needs a ridiculous amount of work done to it, we've spent thousands of dollars fixing things and it still needs in between $50-100K worth of work still, it's ridiculous. I want to move back into our home and be done with the renting process, I mean the home we have is a starter home, it's small 1200sq ft but it's perfect for us right now, I mean we don't need 6000sq ft and we don't need the insane amount of upkeep and we don't need an electric bill that's the size of our house payment over there! DH hasn't come out and said he wants to stay where we are but it seems that's the way he's leaning and I feel so guilty but I REALLY want to go back to our home. It's the home we bought when we married, it's a starter home so it wouldn't be a forever home either way but I want to be done with the drama of renters and done with the insane amount of work it takes for this house. I feel like he wants to think this house will work for us but it's just unreasonable, we're done growing our family so we have THREE extra bedrooms here, I can't keep up with the housework and DH can't keep up with the yard work and the pool, it's just too much. Every time I mention going back he says "it's up to you but financially it's better if we stay here for _____ this reason (and he has a different reason every time)". The house we live in is on a reverse mortgage meaning it's not something we will inherit, when his grandparents die we will have the option of buying it (then fixing everything wrong with it) and it just doesn't make sense that we do that. I think he wants to buy this house and I REALLY don't, it's a money pit that was never taken care of like it should have been so the hellacious mortgage we would have wouldn't be the only money spent on this house because the upkeep is so ridiculous. This house has DRAINED our savings, we've redone the floors, we had a new central ac put in last summer ($9000!!) which I totally understand is part of having a home but we're paying for this house and all of the things that add value into a house BUT we'll NEVER get our money out of it. I don't really know what I'm looking for here but I had to get all of this out, I truly HATE this house and I don't want to hurt dhs feelings :(