Christmas blues ? I love Christmas times but this year, my stupid ex, decides he's taking my son for Christmas. I'm so…

Aw that really sucks I'm sorry. Is there anyway that u guys can at least split the day? Did you tell him you had plans with him already? Be stern and just tell him. You can pick him up after 5pm or something because your taking him somewhere or you have plans already? Don't make it so easy for him.

Does it state in a custody agreement what happens on Christmas?

It does suck sharing :( I won't have my baby christmas eve or christmas morning. It just kind of ruins everything. Gotta put on a happy face for my son though!

Well he's been giving me such a hard about getting him overnight and I will not budge at all. He's threatening to take me to court or call the cops that I'm not following the visitation guidelines. And he knows my family celebrates Christmas Eve but we were going to have Christmas Day with my husbands family. But of course, he can care less about my husbands family. I just hope he flakes like he always does. And the Christmas visitation states he sees him every other year and I believe he can actually have him for a week. It's just ridiculous .

I can imagine it is hard. But he does have the rights if specified on the court papers. Also, if that's the case, he also can show up with the police at your door to get your baby for the dates he has the right to it. Imagine how hard and scary for your kid to have the police coming to pick him up? Not a good Christmas memory right?

My husband was always present in his daughter's life and yet, when he meet me, his ex decided not to give him his visitation rights. And that was really hard for everyone involved, but specially his daughter. A few times, even though he hated having to do so, he did have to get the cops involved. I would try to make things as easy as you can, within the court decision. Good luck!

Does your custody paperwork say he is supposed to have your son on Christmas specifically or anything specifically? If it is just a generic rights to see the child type of order without dates/times set up you do not have to give your son to him on Christmas. I work in law enforcement in California and deal with this multiple times a day. Stand up for what you want if it is not specifically court ordered.

Well it says every other year he can have him for Christmas. I'm just not fighting him on this since I don't let him go overnights. I'm trying to keep the peace so he doesn't involve the police but it hurts so bad. My son cries for me all the time because we are always together and my ex just does not care at all. I can't wait for my son to speak for himself. Plus it makes me upset that he's a heavy smoker and my son smells like a little ashtray everytime he comes back home.

thats horrible! & honestly I would take it back to court if you havent .. especially if your child doesnt like going with him and if you say he comes back smelling like an ashtray when he comes back from his house .. it just doesnt seem right to me.

You should take him to court seriously. I'm sorry that's so sad :/

I'm honestly scared to take him to court because I know it can get real ugly and then when he does see my son, he'll be really ugly about it and I don't want my son in the middle of all this. Plus I don't want to get so stressed out when I'm pregnant.

You're probably gonna end up having to at least go to mediation to get it revised eventually. It does suck sharing. My daughter is gonna be carted back and forth 4 times on Christmas Eve and 3 times on Christmas Day just to appease everyone. It's made me a stressed out mess trying to make it fair for everyone. It stresses me out even more that my ex is always consulting with his gf on what she wants to do. It's his kid not hers. Ugh. We have never went to court so we just work thing out by ourselves but it gets very hard at holiday time.