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Personally I don't care how others parent. I don't pay much attention to if they choose a stroller, a moby, a leash/reins or a fuggin personal camel. I'm too busy making sure to keep my own five safe and sound to give many sh!ts about what other parents are doing to corral their offspring.
Tchenaul you are getting way too worked up over this. Chill out.
I was against them until I had my son. My daughter never walked away from us, she always stayed right where she was suppose too. My son is all boy, we use his backpack when we are in crowded places. He LOVES it and has no issues wearing it! He would rather have his backpack on than be in a stroller. I have raised my children the same, BUT they are sooo different. Doesn't mean I am a bad parent! I do what's best for my children and could care less what anyone else says or thinks!
Using one in crowded places gives me a peace of mind. My kids are pretty good with not running off but I still want the extra protection.
And I don't think when a kid runs off it says anything about the ability of the parents. My SIL parents both her kids the same way and one runs and the other doesn't. It has more to do with the kids' characteristics I think.
If we want to compare children and animals I think there's a lot of things that we do to our kids that could be compared to what we do to animals. Like putting them in a playpen it's like putting an animal in a cage imo.
Sorry I agree with her and I have a child and had a step child until I left his father. My stepson was never on a leash, we did not allow him to run wild. When out and about he had to hold our hand. He was 2 when I started dating his dad and he is now 7. You need to teach your child how to properly behave in public and running wild is not acceptable.
@hola lol u suck as a person because u clearly can't handle others opinion. If you want to put your child on the leash then so be it have them bark like a dog while you're at it I don't care. You clearly can't read Because I stated it was an opinion. Look up the difference between an opinion and a judgement then we can talk. if you get that annoyed about someone's opinion you should not be on this site because it's full of people's opinion and Life Goes On. My world don't stop because your child is on the leash . it's my opinion. Never said anyone was a bad parent for it I just said it wasn't for me. sorry that you can't handle that. (Actually im not)Take a deep breath look yourself in the mirror and repeat these words , it's only an opinion!!!! ???
@hola I stated my opinion if u can read just like everyone else stated there's. Don't care if u didn't like it. If u can't state Ur opinion n move on then u shouldn't be on here. I clearly stated mine everyone is different. Never said anyone was a bad mom for it. Its just not for me. Reread it if you must. Again it's an opinion. Don't be so sensitive. If you want Ur kid on a leash do it. My world dont end cuz u don't like my opinion. And your comment doesn't change my mind. Look up the difference between an opinion and a judgment then reread. People do it all the time I don't think they're any less of a parent. Like I said I just don't believe children belong on leashes they're for animals. (A clear opinion)if you don't like it........sigh, oh well.
@angie. Actually using a harness will teach your child to listen. Think of it as a back up for when they get too excited or independent to hold tight to your hand. If they forget you have the security of knowing they can't get too far and you can teach them what they should do instead.
It's the kids in strollers that never learn to listen because they never have to. There is currently a campaign running in nurseries in the uk because children aren't being taught road safety due to being in the buggy all the time. Lots of children are getting hurt on the roads.
Besides letting them walk is a healthier option.
Kbethuy I have never seen a retractable one. Just the ones that look like backpacks. ??
I don't judge parents that use them. Every child is different. However, I didn't realize how long those leashes could be. I had a child run past me at a store. If my husband hadn't of yelled to watch out I would have tripped over the cord from the leash. Which would have been dangerous for both of us. It looked like a retractable leash.. the kind they use for dogs (is this a normal leash for kids?) The parents had no idea what almost happened. They weren't even looking in our direction. The kid was probably 10 feet from them. So yeah it was a weird experience lol.
Said it before and I'll say it again. In the states they are called 'leashes', everywhere else it's reins or safety harness. They are extremely common in the uk and not an issue whatsoever.
It is beyond bizarre that anyone would judge a parent for taking extra precautions to keep their child safe?.
I understand judging those that put their child in harms way but providing extra security is sensible.
I use a wrist link with my 2yo because we live on a main road and if he runs I'm stuck because I'm also pushing a small baby in her buggy. He's not naughty just excited about the world??♀️
Funny how my friend who has a special needs son was told by his therapist to use a leash. He was a runner and had no concept of danger. My son isn't special needs and almost two. He thinks it's fun to run away from me. We wouldn't use one everyday but at the zoo or busy place we would. Let him have some freedom but keep him safe. My daughter always listened. She stayed near me. My son runs runs runs. I am 31 weeks pregnant and can't chase him like before.
The fact that this opinion is coming from someone who doesn't have kids, this doesn't phase me. They have no clue what it's like. I have 3 children. The oldest just turned 3 in April and my twins are 15 months. As long as I'm keeping my children safe from running into traffic, getting lost or being snatched up by a stranger, that's all that matters. If they ever see me in public with my kids I don't care if they judge. I just hope if they ever have children, their way of thinking will change for the sake of their children.
And to say it's because our parenting skills are horrible and our children are naughty. No, that isn't the reason. Children sometimes simply get too excited and don't have as much self control that adults have to control themselves. They're happy, my bad. ?
Taco I wear my son once and a while but he does like to be a free bird, so he will get mad when I wear him. We really can't win when it comes to people. ?
Honestly, we just can't win. ? DH and I took the kids to a minor league baseball game over the weekend. I knew we would be walking quite a way from the parking garage to the stadium, and would be in a crowd of people. The stroller wouldn't be practical in a stadium, so I put DD (almost 2) in her Ergo.
An older couple in line behind us started asking me questions like if it hurt my back, just basic stuff. I guess they thought I wasn't listening anymore because then I heard things like "poor baby" "she looks so uncomfortable " "I would have never put our kids in one of those".
DD LOVES to be worn. She always has. She was not uncomfortable, but she did want down to run. Which I was not going to allow because we were surrounded by hundreds of people. Someone ALWAYS has an opinion. ?
My 19 month old will run like the wind as soon as his feet touch the ground and he will not listen? not because i'm a bad parent but because i have a TODDLER. Why do you think they call it the terrible 2s? Because they are terrors!? i have a backpack and reigns for ds and they are a life saver. Literally. Not even for just him running away, but from someone snatching my baby and running also, traffic etc. I always try and ask him to walk holding mummy's hand but toddlers will be toddlers! I would tell her to get over it. You have no kids so your opinion doesn't really matter much, byeeee
@nancy I did too. My daughter didn't ever run. She was so well behaved. Then I had my son who darted out of the door at the dealership when I was buying my new car. I think it annoyed me even more that she just thinks cause she works with disabled adults that she knows what she is talking about.
I have a runner and he's not even 2 . He runs for the road, the nearest stranger or dog walking down the street . After having baby number 2 we finally got a backpack AND a wrist harness and it's been a life saver (literally) . When I was heavily pregnant I use to have to make a made dash after my son like 5 times a day it was ridiculous no matter how many times I discipline him he just doesn't get the danger of running off . So far it's great the wrist harness is teaching him boundaries and then we use the backpack when we go to the mall or other crowded places because it will stop him in his tracks . To each their own but it's been great for us
So a ton of people jumped down the OPs throat and she deleted my comments and blocked me, as well as deleting other people's comments. She clearly doesn't like being wrong. ??
I have a toddler and she doesn't run all over in public and listens pretty well. But that doesn't mean she won't start crying at a drop of a hat but I just leave with her until she is done. I'm not a perfect parent.
Yes I think how your kids act in public is a direct reflection on your parenting. But at the same time the kid wasn't with his parents so that might have something to do with it.
I think it's much worse to have your kid not listen to you and run crazy all over the store then to have them under control on a leash.
I discipline my children thank you very much pp. The attitude you have is yuck. ?
Tchenaul, try not to judge other parent who choose to use one. U dont know their reasons for doing so. Just because all ur nieces n nephews on top of u growing up with 8 siblings weren't using it doesn't mean the parents who do use it r bad n lazy. now, I dont use one but I've considered it because my child is hyper active n doesn't like holding hands. He's more of an independent child but is a runner. We continue to talk to him about the dangers when outside but he's 3 so I understand y those parents choose to use one with their child. So get off ur high horse pp cause that attitude is yuck.
If a child isn't being abused, people need to mind their own business. I have both a rule-following child and a wild child. I wouldn't hesitate to do whatever I think it takes to keep both my children safe and I would never judge another family that is doing what they feel need to do. Child safety is what matters, not the opinions of others.
Everyone is different. My opinion will never change. Children r not animals. I would never in life put my child on leash, see any of my nieces, nephews, or friends children on one. Yes i do have a child n one on a way. I also grew up with 8 siblings n my mother didn't have to leash any of us. It just makes me think how much discipline you as a a parent don't have that you need to leash them like a dog. Yuck!
Raveniris has a good point. Leash is no different than a stroller. I was at my OB appointment the other day and a mom had put her wild 3 or 4 year old boy into a stroller because he was running circles in the waiting room. Now the kid is strapped and trapped and was throwing a huge fuss.
FTM here and I could even see the need for a leash on some kids. My niece has an autistic 4 year old. He thinks its great fun to run towards roads. She might not leash him, but the grandparents do.
I personally dont like the leashes on kids, but if it works for some children why not? Parents know their own children and how much of a hassle they can be....my BIL daughter ever since she started walking (3yrs) ago she still gets down from the veichle and runs towards the parking lot ?
I just keep my daughter next to me holding on to the stroller or i hold her hand.
Wether she has kids or not doesn't even matter. It's so weird that people care so much about other parents decisions over their child's safety. Do these leashes in any way put a child's life in danger? Are the children going to suffer emotional damages from them? Are they going to grow up and become criminals? Is their health in jeopardy? I think these are all questions we should ask ourselves before sharing our opinions on other people's parenting choices, on social media.
If you're not a parent, your opinion is irrelevant. When it comes to the safety of a child, I don't care if you put them in a stroller, a wrap or Leash them, but you do what you have to do to keep them safe. I would rather see a child on a leash than a child run out in front of a car.
I just don't see what the difference is between a leash and a stroller. You're still containing your child. At least with a leash your kid can walk and move around. In a stroller, all they're doing is sitting still.
A few other people went off on her. She won't say anything back. I think she knows she was wrong.
Carrimel I just might if she decides to reply to what I said. Her friend commented on it stating that the child was a brat rolling around on the floor and then she says the grandparents were dragging the child around. I asked her which one was it, was the child being a "brat" or was the child being dragged. She hasn't said anything back ??
I used to nanny a special needs child and he Needed to be on a leash. He would cut and run so fast you wouldn't have time to think about it, and he thought it was funny to do things he wasn't supposed to, i.e. Run out in front of moving vehicles.
Mentally disabled adults and mentally disabled children are two highly different types of people, but okay ?
She thinks because she is a "direct support professional" that she knows all about kids, when she works with disabled adults.
I commented on it pretty much telling her she doesn't have kids and until you have kids you don't know what type of child they have. She goes "you put your kids on a leash?" ??
I think it's very easy for people who aren't parents to judge parents for their decisions. If this person had a toddler who loves to run, I'm sure they would feel a little differently.
This is the exact reason why I let parenting "advice" from childless people go in one ear & out the other.
I dont personally use one but there are some days I wish I had one. Anyone saying they would never clearly does not have a special needs child. And anyone says that's treating them like animals by putting harness on them needs to get rid of their judgment and walk a mile in my shoes or any other specials needs moms shoes.
My oldest has autism he is an amazing little boy that is so well behaved. But one characteristic of autism is impulse control which means he can do things without even realizing he is doing it. That includes bolting with no notice and no reason. I can blink and he could be gone. Heaven forbid he ran and got hit by a car or runs by the wrong person with bad intentions. I could lose my baby forever because he can not help it and no matter what I do, no matter how much a "discipline" him nothing will change it because his mind can not control it. So if his running ever got bad enough heck ya I will put one on him. Because my child's safety is more important then some judgmental persons opinion.
So I dare anyone who is judgmental about child harnesses, tell me what I could be doing different in my situation that I haven't already tried.