DD absent father rant My DDs father has not seen or spoke to her in over a year. He told me he "couldn't be a father if…
DD absent father rant
My DDs father has not seen or spoke to her in over a year. He told me he "couldn't be a father if we couldn't be together" lamest excuse in the book, he wasn't a father when we were together either. He came in and out of her life 3 times in those few years and mentally messed with her head. I can't even contact him if there was an emergency because he changed his number and moved. Her 4th birthday is today and he all of a sudden texts and tells me to tell her he said happy birthday. It pisses me off that he all of a sudden wants to tell her happy birthday when he doesn't call or text her any other time or ever asks to see her. I didn't tell her because she wi start crying for him and I won't put her threw that again. Sorry if this is all over the place but my daughter didn't do anything to deserve this.
deleted-user·
F him!
If he doesnt want to be a real man well he better wear a helmet cuz im coming with the frying pan!
deleted-user·
I'm sorry you have to put up with that. I just wouldn't respond to him. I wouldn't mention it to dd either. Hopefully he's trying to change and will be putting forth more of an effort.
Don't stress, just pretend it never happened.
Whatheshell ·
Please do!!!! My DF is a father to her now and we couldn't be any happier. He needs to stay far away from me! My DD has done nothing to deserve a sperm donor father that comes and goes as he pleases. I hope he never does this to another girl because he only screws up people's lives.
Whatheshell ·
I won't mention it to her cause if I do she will start asking where he is and I don't like lying to her. The last time he pulled this on her I told him if he wanted to see her he needed to take me to court. It took her 7 months to stop asking about him and she would burst out into tears over him not answering her calls.
deleted-user·
When my oldest dd was around that age, her dad would call her thru my moms phone and tell her he would go visit her. She would sit on the couch by the window for hours waiting on him. It was heart breaking. She would not leave that spot no matter what we did. He did that to her once a week for about a month before he just stopped calling altogether. It's really their loss.
deleted-user·
Go ahead and tell your DD that her father said happy birthday, when she is in a deep sleep and in a whisper. Then if he ever asks if you told her You say yes but that she didn't respond...lol.
I know exactly how you feel. I told my ex to call the kids 2x a week and he didn't want to. My DD#1 is the one that had suffered from his absence. The other 2 don't know him and don't care about him when they saw him.
I'm just happy that the last time there was contact was 2 weeks before Christmas and I haven't heard a peep from him.
deleted-user·
Thats how my sons father is. Hes only 7 months old but has never met him or spent a dime on him. This is all due to his behavior not mine. Needless to say when we went to court for domestic assault Wednesday I asked for no contact as part of his probation conditions. My son has a dad who loves him so it was best.
I would have told him off if I were you and then changed my number.
Whatheshell ·
I told him off but he blocked my number before I could send it threw. He is that person. I'm sorry all of your kids are going threw what mine is. They do not do anything to deserve this. His parents are like this too. They don't contact my dd at all to see how she is then they tell his family they "don't condone his behavior" I still talk to his aunt who is very involved in DDs life. Clearly they do condone it when they do it themselves. I told his mother how I felt about her when she only calls once a year and lives 10 mins away from me.
deleted-user·
He doesn't deserve to be a father fatherhood is a full time thing not when he chooses that it's appropriate to him!!
Whatheshell ·
Please explain that to him cause for some reason he thinks I have it ass backwards. Then had the nerve to tell me about 2 years ago I was greedy for taking him to court for child support ! If he was actually involved on a full time basis I wouldn't have taken him to court for child support but he has to be a half ass dad.
Thank you ladies for letting me batch to you about my no good ex !!