SO RANT! He's been home for almost a week. I've not gotten the day to myself he said I would get…
SO RANT!
He's been home for almost a week. I've not gotten the day to myself he said I would get which was just going to be basically filled with cleaning. We have not done anything. He spent 500 to lease a different truck. He's barely spent anytime with our daughter unless she's asleep. When she cries she usually gets handed back to me. He left this morning around 930. Said he wasn't going to be gone long and that he wanted to do 9 holes of golf with a friend. Whatever. It's now 4 in the afternoon. I have insomnia and didn't sleep last night and wanted him to watch out daughter so I could sleep an extra half hour even. He told me that he was leaving to go to the bank to pull out the money to buy me a car which I'm very thankful for but he hasn't been home for more than 5 minutes today. I've been waiting all week for him to take me on a date and nothing yet. He keeps saying if I want to go we will go tonight or tomorrow or whatever and when the time comes he just doesn't want to. He's been gone a month and we don't know when I'll see him next. Could be end of November for all I know. (Not exaggerating.) he's done nothing with us, I've got nothing done around the house and he's leaving either tomorrow night or Sunday morning before the sun comes up. I'm just so darn frustrated. The most he's done with me is try to get it in. That's it. I'm ready for him to go back to work already.
deleted-user·
Have you discussed this with him? I definitely believe you should lay it all down for him. While I'm sure he just wanted a break from work, there is no reason you and your child should be out on the back burner.
Courtney Larocque·
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I've talked to him about it and he just tells Me not to be mad. It's now almost 6 pm and he's just now on his way home. I'm so frustrated.
deleted-user·
Just hand him the baby and tell him what to do and go lie down. That's what I do with my Dh. Some men just won't do anything unless told/asked.
deleted-user·
I'd be so upset. That is absolutely not okay. Not one bit. I would talk to him again and just make sure you explain how it hurts you. Explain how you just wanted a couple small things from him and you feel unwanted and unappreciated. Tell him you need him to follow through on his word and every time he doesn't, he lets you down and you feel more alone.
deleted-user·
I'd just hand him the baby and go take a nap like everyone else suggested. He helped make her, he gets to take care of her. You shouldn't have to do all that alone.
deleted-user·
I got to this point the other night. I was seeing red everywhere i was so angry and upset.i had hardly any sleep for 3 days, our youngest is teething badly, and i had not showered since the day before and im soooo ocd about personal high gene ect it was setting off my anxiety.
So When df finally got home i gave him a 'peice of my mind' handed over our youngest ds after almost 2 hrs of trying to get him to sleep (we have 5 kids) and said...
"Its ur fu**ing turn, im having a fu**ing shower and if u so much as disturb me ill pack ur bags for you...there was abit more but cant remember lol
All day yesterday he was sweet as can be and i got a sleep in today and he went and got takeout for dinner and supposedly talking us all to the beach tomorrow.
Sometimes if u have talked to him about it and it still has not registered to him u gotta lose ur cool so that they know u are being serious and u have had enough. Hand over ur daughter and tell him point blank that u are tired and u are having a rest its his time to spend it with his daughter.
Courtney Larocque·
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He let me sleep in today and took me out for supper last night. He's leaving town again tonight though. What he doesn't understand is I am 24/7 alone. The odd day my daughter lets me stay in bed til 8 or 9 he's always telling me it must be nice. I went off on him. It must be nice to get off of work. Have a day off to do whatever you want. Not have to go somewhere baby friendly all the time if you want to go for supper and cant find a sitter. He's always making it sound like being a sahm isn't that difficult of a job and that he could do it if need be. I left the house to go pick something up and drop money off to my mom the other day and I made it the 5 min drive to my mom's and he called me telling me she's screaming and he doesn't know what to do. Women are expected to know so much when we have our children when in reality we are just as clueless as the men we are just persistent and don't or can't just throw in the flag and hand baby over.