Cheating Husband? A week or so ago I was using my husbands phone to text his mom and I came across…
Cheating Husband?
A week or so ago I was using my husbands phone to text his mom and I came across texts between him and a girl I had never heard of before, me being curious (I know I shouldn't have) looked at their conversation and he was openly flirting with this girl and asking her to hang out. I had confronted my husband about it and he kept assuring me that he didn't do anything. Maybe he didn't, but to me it's just as hurtful for him to even be wanting to spend time with another woman and to be openly flirting with her. He doesn't understand that he hurt me but now every time he leaves for work I question if he's actually going to work. It's eating me alive at this point. On this coming Sunday we will have been married for 6 months. I'm just astonished about the whole situation. For my sons sake I have decided to give him one more chance considering this is the first time something like this has happened. I am having such a hard time with self esteem already and ever since I've been pregnant it feels like he has become even more distant, and now I understand why.
deleted-user·
I'd go to counselling. They can help him understand that to you, it's cheating and that he broke your trust and needs to earn it back. I wouldn't trust him either BUT in order for you two to fix this you BOTH need to try 110% to fix it and he needs to know and understand what he did was inappropriate and that he crossed a line and how that effected you and your relationship. If he can't do any of that then you can't fix it
deleted-user·
Exactly what pp said! Even if it's morning physical it can still be cheating. It's just as bad imo
deleted-user·
Sounds like me during my pregnancy with my first daughter. We'd married in Feb, got pregnant on purpose in July, he brought home genital herpes in November. But "he's never once cheated" bs.. after 10yrs he stopped caring enough to hide his cheating and started taking out large loans for week long visits to strip clubs while our daughter and I were home with no vehicle or food or money.
deleted-user·
Hanging out with another girl may not be the typical cheating but hell no that is not allowed. Is he looking for new friends to be buddies with? That happen to be a girl? Please, that's all bullsh*t.
deleted-user·
Emotional cheating is worse than physical (IMO). It provokes hiding and lying and that can easily spiral. I would be more interested in knowing what "he thinks" he is lacking to desire the attention of another woman. He didn't "not do anything". He emotional cheated, and perhaps more. I would be more devastated if my husband was emotionally attached to another woman than physically. It's usually the beginning. I'm so sorry you are dealing with this. I have also found that if they easily admit to a casual phone convo, it's because they are elated you didn't discover more. This is not your fault and you did nothing to cause this no matter what he may say. Men who do this are usually narcissistic and self centered. Always putting their needs first above family. That's terrible. I hope this works out for you but follow your heart. Maybe finding out now is the biggest favor he could give you. ❤
Val Hinkle·
UPDATE: We had a very good conversation about it and we have decided to work it out. He is now aware that if it happens again that I'm not going to stick around to give him another chance. This is his last chance to prove to me that I am enough for him and that if he wants to be with me he will have to earn back my trust.