Mine will be 4 soon. She just threw a tantrum at 6am throwing herself on the floor and screaming because the lid on her Betta fish tank was slightly open

Have you tried limiting the times you have to say no. For example if they want to eat a sweet you say lets have an apple instead not no. All they hear is no they don't hear anything you say after it. In the pan incident instead of saying no say let's play Lego or give a choice like do you want to play with your blocks or your dolls now and direct them to an activity away from the pan.

That's I found worked during my sons defiant stage.

My second daughter was like this. One day right after her brother was born. My husband was cooking bacon and she kept trying to grab it off the pan and kept getting told no. Anyways our neighbor called the cops. Then came talked to her. Luckily for me it stopped after that.

I'm going through it as well. Worst phase ever. I won't leave the house.

My first was like this.. He acted like I was killing him or something.

It was a phase that lasted 2 years. 2-4

Hopefully it doesn't last that long with you.

It makes me feel better in not the only one lol. My son will be 3 in August it seems like he gets worse every day. I'm to the point I'm going to make an appointment to have him evaluated.

Oh my goodness. I'm going through this right now also.

I'm right there with you. My son is going through an awful stage right now. I hope it passes very soon. He will be 4 in August.