I tell my husband to give his nipple to our daughter lol but he takes it as a joke so I guess lol

I’ve propositioned this idea to Dh so I could get some sleep ?

I don’t find this odd at all, actually. I don’t breastfeed, didn’t breastfeed either of my boys. But if my newborn gets fussy & his brother has hid all his pacis (?) then I’ll “dry nurse” and use my nipple to comfort him.

My Dh wouldn’t do this because he’s extremely weird about things touching his nipples lol but if he did, i wouldn’t even think twice about it.

Eta: I also understand that dads don’t get that extreme bond that mothers do. That’s just a fact. They don’t breastfeed, the didn’t grow the baby, they don’t have “mothers intuition.” If this is something that can build that bond up, by all means, go for it.

I mean, kind of strange, but I get the desperation if daddy can't do anything with baby. I remember taking a shower when dd1 was like 3 months old. Daddy couldn't get her to stop crying so he attempted to give her boob. Hah, it worked. That's the only time it's ever been done. I thought it was funny because he was so desperate. If he attempted that all the time.. yeah I don't think I'd be too comfortable with that.

I don't understand why he did this. I think it's weird and gross. I'd think it was just as weird and gross if he was trying to soothe her by letting her suck on his fingers or other body parts because there is no reason for that. Pacifiers and bottles are washed and sanitized and the breastmilk that comes from our breasts has antibodies to protect LO from any germs that would be on our nipples, making them safe for baby to suck on. We don't let our kids stuck on our fingers, faces, arms etc. So I don't see any reason for this. ?

Absolutely not ok with me

I guess it's "weird" because it's outside of the typical norm but if its done culturally then it would become a normal standard. Dd tried when she was a newborn but when she went for it dh's hair poked her in the face and it was the most funny expression she started crying ?

DH was holding a kitten once and it tried to feed off of him he didn't find it as funny as I did ??

Nope

In all seriousness though- I wouldn’t say inappropriate but definitely not something we would be comfortable with

I’ve prayed the baby would latch onto DH one day just so he can see how it feels ? lol

Although, when I first started pumping before going back to work when DS was about 4 weeks old, I was telling DH how utterly (no pun intended ?) sore my poor nipples were. He said, “pshh- it can’t be THAT bad ?”. I told him to take a wail at that breast pump. He happily put it on and I’ll tell you right now, I thought I was going to have to pull him down from the second floor! He jumped so facking high and screamed like the biggest little girl EVER! ???????????????? He tried to rip it off but it was mid suction. And the pump was literally set to 3! I should’ve jacked it up to 10 ?. I just almost peed my pants just thinking back to it. It was the FUNNIEST thing I’ve ever seen in my entire life. I’d pay any amount of money to have had it on video

@diamond, he wouldn't want to do it because he thinks the baby wouldn't really like hairy nipples. So the "if" would never happen. I also wouldn't allow it because it isn't necessary. Just because it's his baby too, it doesn't mean he should be imitating the breastfeeding process. So once again, what other people do is their business. No harm done. ?

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Its actually the norm in some cultures. Definitely not for me, but eh whatever

To add to my comment, I did take a picture lol

Mmmm hairy nips ???

Momma- so if he would want to do it, why wouldn’t you allow it? That is her father after all. Genuine question.

I've asked dh to do it before and he refuses. I'm tired of being used as a pacifier?

Personally, not something my SO would do nor would I allow. It's weird. But whatever... honestly there's no harm done.

Lol makes me cringe & my SO would never let that happen.?

My baby is not sucking on my S/O’s hairy ass nipple ?

@baby bat yes the photo was painted in a positive light. I thought it was a very lovely photo. But everyone else seemed to have a serious issue with it.

Having flashbacks to Meet The Parents or whatever. "Can you milk me, Greg?" And then Meet The Fockers with Robert DeNiro with his solo fake tiddy

I wouldn’t say inappropriate, but i guess unconventional is more the word? I can understand in a moment of desperation with mommy not there if baby won’t be soothed by binky and is just needing comfort. I’d probably just laugh if I saw my SO do it honestly. But I wouldn’t expect it to be a regular thing necessarily.

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@yaya, yes I’ve heard of that. Last time I heard of a lactating man, was when a gay couple adopted children and wanted to be able to breastfeed them. It’s absolutely fascinating. When I was a teen my friends brother was put on a medication to help with whatever issue he was having, and he had to stop that medication because he started lactating. Poor boy felt so bad about himself when that happened.

@yaya really???? That's crazy! Under what circumstances could a man lactate? I'll have SO bf the next baby ?

Little known fact...men can produce milk, too.

I see no issue with it but if granny was pulling out her tatas to let my baby suck on them we would have a problem.

I just can’t see myself coming home to see my babies mouth on my SOs nipple and being like “yeah that’s ok” women’s breast are meant to nurse/comfort babies that’s why ours make milk.

I definitely prefer a pacifier over a hairy nipple ? My husband agrees.

Nope. My husband would just hand the baby over to me. Or use the pacifier.

Why is it inappropriate? If it isn't inappropriate for a mother to soothe with her nipple, why is it inappropriate for a father?

Just because something is outside the norm doesn't mean it's inappropriate.

Why not? It’s okay to put plastic pacifiers, bottle nipples, female nipples, but not male nipples in a child’s mouth? Why is that? I’m not gonna lie, my first reaction was that, that’s a little weird. Which is probably because I’ve never seen a baby latch onto a males nipple before. But if baby is only trying to latch for comfort and not for feeding, I see no reason not to give mama’s nipples a rest and allow dad to pacify the baby. Breastfeeding hurts at first for some women, and I’ve seen so many women commiserating with each other about how their baby is using them as a pacifier and that their child won’t take a rubber pacifier and they wish they could take a break from it. This is a potential solution to that issue as long as everyone in that situation is comfortable and willing.

My LO went after her dad's nipple as a newborn and then cried because it was hairy haha

I suppose men's nipples have gotta have a use at some point ?

As long as it's the father I don't see it as inappropriate. To me it would be better than my baby not being soothed and screaming for hours while I'm away because they refuse to take a rubber nipple.

If he purposely did it..kinda weird.

But my dd goes towards any nipple

Her dad's or mine. We just kinda move her head like "no sweetie".

Not weird. A lot of different cultures do this. And it's the babies father, why shouldn't they try anything to soothe their child.

Reminds me of that episode of family guy where peter does that to stewie.

I think it’s weird..