DS is 15 months and has been starting tantrums but not extreme to the point of throwing himself around or anything. Usually it’s when he’s upset but then I try to pick him up, he’ll get more upset and squirm out of my arms. With this I just let him down and and acknowledge that he’s upset. I TRY really hard not to just take things from him but ask first and if that doesn’t work then sort of hold it and get him to let go. I feel like it helps but he does still get upset. So I again acknowledge his feelings but reinforce that he can’t have X because it’s messy, or it isn’t food, or it’s dangerous etc. then offer to hold him while he has his feelings before redirecting to something else. I also get a pretty firm tone when he does something more serious like kicking during a diaper change, throwing ornaments that he was told not to throw and does anyways, etc. Also, try to choose my battles. Sometimes that means he gets to naw on his toothbrush for an hour before we put it away ??‍♀️ or make a little mess with his cup after he eats but Mom and Dad are still finishing up. No idea if this is how it’s supposed to be done but it’s working for the most part for us. Although, I do lose patience occasionally, but I try.
If yours is having full blown tantrums I suggest allowing it but making sure he’s in a safe place to do so. If he’s hurting himself or someone else that definitely needs correcting (by this I mean a firm “no, we don’t kick. Be gentle, like this” or something like that) but not punishment. 15 months is too young to understand punishment but I think it’s fine to start learning boundaries and rules.
Actually the leap around this age suggests they are doing things differently because they WANT to know the rules/boundaries and it’s up to us to show them. Not punish for learning.
Also DS usually gets the most grouchy when he needs something - diaper, drink, food, nap.

I wish I knew! My oldest (3 yo) NEVER acted as crazy/tantrumy as my 18month old.

All I can say is they feed off of your energy, so if he's angry, remind yourself to remain calm when dealing with him so he can learn how to appropriately express his emotions. Its definitely sad knowing that the main issue is communication at this age.

When he's throwing a fit and I can see the reason, I will say "Tyler, do you need help? Say 'Momma, can you help me please?'" as I help him. Not sure if it's working but eventually with consistency it will. He gets frustrated if he can't fit a toy through a certain spot or if the toy isn't doing what he wants it to.

Good luck!

This is such a hard age because for the most part they don’t even know why they’re mad lol. I would definitely start teaching signs. My ds just turned two and is only now starting to make sounds and signing has been such an amazing help!

When he was that little I tried to make everything as easy and simple as possible because he wasn’t talking. (Diapers were always in the same spot, he knew where his sippys and snacks were etc)

As far as the tantrums went I simply redirected and when he really worked himself up and couldn’t calm down I would give him his binky and just hold and rock him. That’s just what worked for us. Now that he’s two he gets put on small timeouts. While he isn’t fully verbal he understands it’s a punishment.

ETA: it’s such a hard age cause they have all these emotions and aren’t able to adequately communicate them to us but remember mama your not alone and your doing a great job!

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Following! My son is 14 months and im going thru the same thing. He rages at every diaper change, wildly kicking me and trying to get away...and if we’re out somewhere and he doesn’t want to be in a highchair, cart, stroller etc...I try and talk calmly to him without giving him too much attention for it. It’s a difficult stage for sure

I could try signing but she doesn't even gesture yet. No pointing, nothing. It's so hard to figure out what she wants. ?

My son will be 15 months Jan 5th and he does this. He even bites his hand. I always ask him if he feels better. He'll just smile and go on like it didn't happen.

Following.. my son turned 13 months today and has been having tantrums for a month now. He likes to hit his head on the floor ?

I second teaching her a few signs. Changed my daughters attitude majorly.

Oh no hun. Can you try teach her some sign words. Might help her communicate and make less tantrums