this might be tmi but..

Need some advice. Ever since i had my little one almost 4 months ago i have not been in the mood to have sex. Yes previously right when we got cleared we had sex but lately he will be lucky to have sex once every 2 weeks i know thats nothing. But i need advice to get my sex drive up or idont know. Lol i keep telling my self i will be in the mood hopefully this week and never hahha. Advice?

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Thats what i was thinking. Im breastfeeding as well. Maybe r hormones r still really off.

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No sex drive here either. Way way lower than while pregnant. Must be the breastfeeding.

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Never thought about it like that. I could think about it all day that might help!(:

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We're in the same boat and all you really can do is wait it out for your cycles to regulate again. About 2 weeks ago was the first time since giving birth that I was actually in the mood, it lasted for a week but that coincided with ovulation and it's pretty common to only be in the mood during ovulation and then fizzle out until the same time next cycle or be unpredictable if you're bfing as that suppresses ovulation. One thing that may be helpful is to think about what turns you on and think about it all day till hubby gets home and act on it if you can, it's 50/50 whether it'll work or not. Also it takes energy to be in the mood so if your tired all the time than there's a good chance your drive won't come back until you start getting more regular rest

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I have no sex drive what so ever but still do the deed three or four times a week just to keep my SO happy n act into it ?

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Thats me as well!!!

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same, and i was a very active person with my so before our baby. idk i would rather hold the baby. and after he’s sleeping i don’t like leaving him alone in a room yet.. but i always feel weird having sex in the same room as the baby. it’s weird to me !!!

plus when he touches me i’m just like ugh stop ): but i deal with it a few times a week for him. like i feel bad i just don’t feel turned on ever ... ever ever lol

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Yea thats what worries me having another. My husband doesn't really want more and i only want one more if i can loose the weight i gained and then some.

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Haven’t had sex since my LO was born and that’s almost four months. Not in the mood for it and plus I’m just scared to get pregnant again cause we’re up to number three already and I’m not about to be baking another bun in my oven.

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Always the last thing on my mind and always first on my husband's. I have zero desire or energy

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Lol thts true!!

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I miss sleep more than I miss sex ?

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Hmm maybe can do that. I feel like i need to just stick it out act like im enjoying it for the sake of making him happy. I know alot of people have different opinions on watching sex. But i def dont like my husband watching it and nervous he will.

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I have pretty open dialogue with my husband about it. Some days I’ll tell him I can only muster the energy to cuddle and he’s pretty understanding. Somedays it’s not always a lack of sex drive, it’s just not wanting to be touched anymore - I spend all day nursing and carrying two children that sometimes at the end of the day I don’t want anymore physical touching. It all gets better over time, and right now me and my husband spend more time conversing and being intimate in other ways besides physically.

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True im glad im not alone but then it sucks cuz my husband is all in other words saying he needs that touch lol. Im like ahh

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One of my bffs was just telling me the same thing. She talked to her doc about it and her doctor said that it’s very natural to feel that way! The doc said it’s ingrained in us to feel that way as a form of birth control! Lol! Kinda make sense though!

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Are you breastfeeding? That really drives my sex drive down. We still aim for 1-2 times a week. I’ve also been working out at night after kids are sleeping and that is helping my energy overall which leaves me a bit more “in the mood”

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No advice, just wanted to let you know you’re not alone ?.

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Same girl, sameeee.

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