this might be tmi but..
Need some advice. Ever since i had my little one almost 4 months ago i have not been in the mood to have sex. Yes previously right when we got cleared we had sex but lately he will be lucky to have sex once every 2 weeks i know thats nothing. But i need advice to get my sex drive up or idont know. Lol i keep telling my self i will be in the mood hopefully this week and never hahha. Advice?
Never thought about it like that. I could think about it all day that might help!(:
We're in the same boat and all you really can do is wait it out for your cycles to regulate again. About 2 weeks ago was the first time since giving birth that I was actually in the mood, it lasted for a week but that coincided with ovulation and it's pretty common to only be in the mood during ovulation and then fizzle out until the same time next cycle or be unpredictable if you're bfing as that suppresses ovulation. One thing that may be helpful is to think about what turns you on and think about it all day till hubby gets home and act on it if you can, it's 50/50 whether it'll work or not. Also it takes energy to be in the mood so if your tired all the time than there's a good chance your drive won't come back until you start getting more regular rest
same, and i was a very active person with my so before our baby. idk i would rather hold the baby. and after he’s sleeping i don’t like leaving him alone in a room yet.. but i always feel weird having sex in the same room as the baby. it’s weird to me !!!
plus when he touches me i’m just like ugh stop ): but i deal with it a few times a week for him. like i feel bad i just don’t feel turned on ever ... ever ever lol
Yea thats what worries me having another. My husband doesn't really want more and i only want one more if i can loose the weight i gained and then some.
Hmm maybe can do that. I feel like i need to just stick it out act like im enjoying it for the sake of making him happy. I know alot of people have different opinions on watching sex. But i def dont like my husband watching it and nervous he will.
I have pretty open dialogue with my husband about it. Some days I’ll tell him I can only muster the energy to cuddle and he’s pretty understanding. Somedays it’s not always a lack of sex drive, it’s just not wanting to be touched anymore - I spend all day nursing and carrying two children that sometimes at the end of the day I don’t want anymore physical touching. It all gets better over time, and right now me and my husband spend more time conversing and being intimate in other ways besides physically.
True im glad im not alone but then it sucks cuz my husband is all in other words saying he needs that touch lol. Im like ahh
Thats what i was thinking. Im breastfeeding as well. Maybe r hormones r still really off.