PTSD Has anyone on here ever had a SO or DH who was or is in the armed forces and has or is goin…

I have a BIL who has PTSD from being in the Army. Your first step is to find him a therapist that can help him. Are there any ex military resources in your area? My BIL is pretty stubborn and he will only talk to ex military therapists who have gone through something similar.

Omg yes!!! Idk what is up with men!!! Hes the same way... hes so stubborn. He doesnt feel the need to even see anyone at this point! He thinks hes fine. Like u cant live ur life with all that anxiety and hes not sleeping at night becasue his mind runs and he over thinks abt everything... he snaps and gets mad at the drop of a dime. Like ???? its alot....and i genuinely know that this is not him!!! Ive knowm him since we were 5!

My husband has PTSD. He was in Iraq 2010-2011. Tell him to go to the local VA. They have a lot of support groups and counselors available at all times. Depending on how bad it is they have a few different meds that work wonders. The one that's been most helpful for DH is one that blocks adrenaline, which I guess is what causes flashbacks & nightmares. It also makes panic attacks & anxiety a lot less severe. My husband also goes on a couple different online forums, pretty much like this one except for vets, he'll sometimes talk to me but I think it's easier for him with others who have been in the same spot. Feel free to pm me if you have any more specific questions ☺️

Oh also the VA and online has support groups for spouses, which have been helpful for me

My ex boyfriend has it. He was there at the beginning when it was really bad. On his first leave from TOD he was staying at his friends. His friends mom slammed the dryer door shut not thinking about it and he came of the couch from sleeping with a knife in hand ready to attack. He has had other episodes even over 10 years later. He threw me off the couch once after having a nightmare. He watched his friend killed right next to him. He told me the details which are very graphic so nope not going to share. I have a cousin who also suffers along with many friends. I'm glad my brother never went over. But he does suffer PTSD from our dads death. Its sad to see the people closes to me going threw this and knowing there are a lot more going threw this.

My stepdad cousin who severed in Vietnam ended up killing himself not long after he got home. Him and his brother served together over there doing I don't know how many missions. Then the cousin who killed himself lost his dad and brother when they were struck by a car and killed. The one whom killed his self told his wife to take the kids and leave because he wasn't getting better. After hearing the news of his brother and dad since he never left the house within days he either shot or hung himself. That tore my stepdad and his brother (uncle) apart because they were the closest thing to father figures that they had since their dad is a douchecanoe.

Wow @cak thats so crazy I'm sorry they all went thru this

My husband is an army veteran and has PTSD but will never admit it or get help. He almost lost his leg from an IED and was injured severely enough to be retired immediately. It was scarring. The way my husband has described it (and how I’ve seen it) in the armed forces, diagnoses stay with you wherever you go. If you’re diagnosed with PTSD it stays in your file and even after retirement you still see VA doctors, and they still have your file. It’s so stigmatized and such a bad label that a lot of people refuse treatment because they don’t want to have that label for the rest of their lives. That being said, I completely agree that the VA has a ton of resources and benefits fully cover counseling for things like that. There’s support groups too. Military families have so much to go through during and after military life, I thank God for the benefits and support the VA gives veterans and their families.

ETA: sorry I didn’t reply to the whole post lol after he got out he had a huge fear of crowds, had to face the door no matter where we went, had random outbursts of rage (never displaced at anyone, just would get really mad about random stuff), and he got extremely anxious around children because in Afghanistan they often used them to detonate. The biggest eye opener is during fireworks he freaked out and hit the deck and covered me. He had flashbacks and thought we were getting attacked. Honestly, time and compassion are all that I’ve been able to do. Giving him space to talk about things when he wants to, but not pushing him. It just takes a lot of grace and patience.

Thank you @cmjohnson. I'm so sorry your SO went threw what he did. I hope he can get the help he needs. PTSD is a serious sucky thing for anyone to go threw. And even though I don't know him, tell your SO thank you for severing this country and that his services to this country are greatly appreciated.