I have a 22mth gap (fell preg when DD was 13mths)... I won't talk u in or out of anything but do know that it is bloody hard work. You think one is a challenge? One baby is a walk in the park, easy peasy!
For me, having to is amazing and love filled, but it's also guilt filled, exhausting and I'm pretty sure I lost half my brain function with the last Bub ?? I'm done at 2!
I agree with Alessia but also believe you have to follow your heart. For some crazy feeling I'm not done at 3 and know I will want number 4 in a year or so... I have 3 boys all pretty much dead on 2 years apart, my youngest being 3 months.
I also don't feel done with 3. We would be much better off if I just leave it with the 3 we have, but not sure I can do that! I don't want to regret not having my 4th down the track. You will always make it work, and I think you'll only ever regret the children you don't have, not the ones you do ?
IMO, I wouldn't because if I have a starting business, I want it to grow, or give this business wholehearted focus for a year or two if you're still passionate about it and wanting to make a consistent profit. Use this profit as savings for when you're tight down with newborn everything.
Juggling 2 kids by then, running a business will be harder that what you are balancing now.
I run my own graphic business when my only child dd was 2.5yo, i didn't earn a proper income nor saw any profit until about 8months after, but I kept going and set goals to have 3-4 permanent clients within 2years, now 2yrs later I'm contented both income and workload.
Honestly u have no major time frame on pretty much everything else in life except babies. Mind u in saying this i want a 3rd but hubby is saying no n together we have came up with more cons than pros but im living by the u don't regret the ones you have only the ones you dont, quote
I never felt "done" with 3 even though we always only wanted 3 children. We weren't trying for no.4 but she's coming anyway. We have 3 boys and I'm so glad we're having a "surprise" because it's a girl and she will complete our family
Oh goodness this worries me lol I just had my 3rd 4m ago I kinda feel done but then again I don't! Ugh! Lol I'm busy as it is there are things I want to do but I love babies and I'm very maternal so I don't know I guess if it accidentally happens Then ok lol!! I have a 7yr old from a previous relationship a 2yr old and 4m old two girls one boy. I have names picked if I was to have more Jeez am I done or not I don't even know...
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25 years to life....... no sleep, no energy, extra work. go back into ur cave ovaries ?
Ktln·
Thanks ladies!
I just can't seem to shake the feeling of wanting another baby ?
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I have a 22mth gap (fell preg when DD was 13mths)... I won't talk u in or out of anything but do know that it is bloody hard work. You think one is a challenge? One baby is a walk in the park, easy peasy!
For me, having to is amazing and love filled, but it's also guilt filled, exhausting and I'm pretty sure I lost half my brain function with the last Bub ?? I'm done at 2!
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I agree with Alessia but also believe you have to follow your heart. For some crazy feeling I'm not done at 3 and know I will want number 4 in a year or so... I have 3 boys all pretty much dead on 2 years apart, my youngest being 3 months.
Maybe wait 6 months and see?
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I also don't feel done with 3. We would be much better off if I just leave it with the 3 we have, but not sure I can do that! I don't want to regret not having my 4th down the track. You will always make it work, and I think you'll only ever regret the children you don't have, not the ones you do ?
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Agree with Salnat to follow your heart - 100%! I'm just being truthful so ur ovaries know what they're getting u into ☺️?
I still wouldn't change a thing, no matter how much they drive me crazy
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IMO, I wouldn't because if I have a starting business, I want it to grow, or give this business wholehearted focus for a year or two if you're still passionate about it and wanting to make a consistent profit. Use this profit as savings for when you're tight down with newborn everything.
Juggling 2 kids by then, running a business will be harder that what you are balancing now.
I run my own graphic business when my only child dd was 2.5yo, i didn't earn a proper income nor saw any profit until about 8months after, but I kept going and set goals to have 3-4 permanent clients within 2years, now 2yrs later I'm contented both income and workload.
All yours to decide.
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Honestly u have no major time frame on pretty much everything else in life except babies. Mind u in saying this i want a 3rd but hubby is saying no n together we have came up with more cons than pros but im living by the u don't regret the ones you have only the ones you dont, quote
Ktln·
Thanks everyone for your advice! I still have no idea what to do but it's probably best if I leave it few months to make sure it's the right choice
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I never felt "done" with 3 even though we always only wanted 3 children. We weren't trying for no.4 but she's coming anyway. We have 3 boys and I'm so glad we're having a "surprise" because it's a girl and she will complete our family
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Oh goodness this worries me lol I just had my 3rd 4m ago I kinda feel done but then again I don't! Ugh! Lol I'm busy as it is there are things I want to do but I love babies and I'm very maternal so I don't know I guess if it accidentally happens Then ok lol!! I have a 7yr old from a previous relationship a 2yr old and 4m old two girls one boy. I have names picked if I was to have more Jeez am I done or not I don't even know...