Abusive Relationship Advice

Sorry you have to put up with that. Document everything and print your text messages. Verbally abusive and controlling men are the worst.

Get everything g documented so you can have proof i would get out and never look back

Please don’t alienate him from her life. I myself dealt with a very verbally abusive and at times physically abusive guy. He was the father of my first 2 babies. I eventually had to leave. But I’ve never kept him from his kids. I have no right, they are his kids as much as they are mine. They need him, and I know that, regardless of how I feel about him. I never even took him to court (I get a lot of people can only settle things that way though). This topic hits my heart soo much. I’m very much a fathers rights advocate and I pray you can see things through their eyes as well. Many prayers for yall❤️

I won't...its just he keeps getting worse and worse :( hes so angry all the time...puts me down...

I’m sorry you’re going through this. Have you left?

And just because he the father if he's toxic you have every right to keep him away don't listen to anyone when it comes to your kids

I have not left yet. He keeps saying he is going to leave and I believe that will be the case because he is telling his friends he is wanting to move back home with his parents...so i am waiting for that to happen. His sister in law called me the other day saying that he has made up rediculous lies about me for months...no wonder why his parents seem to be shunning me lately! They even talked and cried to her and his brother about how people need to be nicer to him and how he worksnvery hard. What about me though?? I work full time and have a part time job while taking care of the baby, cleaning, cooking.. They were sticking up for me telling them that they have witnessed him multiple times being verbally abusive towards me...they still are not getting it. I understand though that blood is thicker than water.

I contacted an attorney just incase for advice on to properly proceed and handle situations legally.

Sunnydayz, you have that wrong, they are THEIR kids. Fathers are 50% of that baby and have every single right that a mother has. ?

It went a little far this morning. Ive been sick with a cough and have bad cramps and asked him if i can take over this morning after I fed him so I can lay down for another hour or two. He huffed a bit and kept badgering about it. Then I took the baby into the other room with me and he came storming in saging give me the d**n baby and grabbed baby by the hips and tried to pull him out of my arms.

Please leave! Get out of their for your sake and your baby's sake! :(

Please get out ! It only gets worse. I just had to have my babies daddy arrested for almost killing me . I have a black eye , and marks on my neck where he choked me . Also a little FYI , dept of children and families can and will take your kids if they find out that this is on going and you chose to stay because it puts your children in danger. I had to sign a statement saying it was the first time even though it wasn’t and agree that he isn’t allowed back here or they will take my kids .

LEAVE!! Get your baby and leave do it for your baby! Its only gonna get worse

My friend, pls get out. Why stay when you make more money than him anyways. Men like this are potential killers.

UPDATE--So about a month ago we had got into a little argument in the car.I can't even remember about what because it was probably dumb..and he demanded I let him out of the car, so I did. Two hours go by and I heard the door open and it was the police! He called the police on me..lol..the police said that he called them because he was concerned about my well being and he thought I was drunk driving. I was calm and collective and they talked to me, did a sobriety test and foubd I was SOBER. I was unbelievably upset..but didn't show it..he ended up leaving for the night..the next day was my moms 60th birthday and we were supposed to have cake and coffee at our place..well after we went to dinner and came back the couch cousions, tv, remotes, left the house a mess. My mom was so upset. I ended up hearing from him TWO DAYS LATER after I was the FIRST to message him first.

I had no other choice but to end it and put in a child support order and custody with him getting visition rights. In the past month, I have been very cooperative with giving him time to spend with the baby. And he thanks me all the time for it.

So..im nervous..I dont know what moves he'll make next but my lawyer says not to worry.

Sorry your going thru this. I think you did the right thing!

I’m sorry this is happening to you. I’m glad you’re out of that situation now and I wish you the happiness you deserve.

Thank you, I hope so as well! I have been very stress free lately so it's a good thing.

Glad to hear it!