How to Handle Disappointment from Mom During Pregnancy?
how to deal with my mom!
So I'm about 8.5 weeks along with my first baby and told my family last night that I was expecting. My dad was pretty excited, he said I was almost 30 so I'm a grown up and can make my own decisions and was happy for me. My mother on the other hand....was very disappointed, sad, nervous. She had all these questions for me like what my plan is etc., which is fine and what I was expecting. But she told me she wasn't excited and that I can throw my own baby shower. She also thinks that we should go to city hall to get married so that when the baby is born we will be married and not just mom and dad..I told her that we are not going to get married right now but maybe in the future when we are ready.
deleted-user·
First of all, DO NOT let her push you into getting married. Being married does not automatically make a better life for the baby, but it sounds like you already know that. As far as your mom, I think all you can do is tell her how you're feeling about her reaction. You can't control her reactions, so if it gets to be too much, give her some space and time to deal with it on her own. You're both adults and you don't need that added stress. Maybe your dad can work on her. :)
deleted-user·
I agree! Don't let her force you into marriage. My husband and I were in a very similar situation when we had our son. Had only been dating for a few months when we found out we were pregnant and moved into a first apartment soon after we found out. Our son is now almost 4, we just got married in August, we are buying a house and now pregnant with another baby. Don't let her try to tell you what is right and what is wrong! There is no right or wrong answer :)
I hope she changes her attitude soon though!
Courtney Balcer·
Thank you! And we defiently have no intentions of getting married anytime soon that's for sure.
deleted-user·
I was with my SO for a couple months before I became pregnant. His grandmother was that way, wanted us to get married right away but that never happened. And here we are a month shy of 7 years and on baby #3 and still not married lol but happy as ever! Don't let her words or feelings bring you down! If your happy and excited that's all that matters ❤️
deleted-user·
Maybe give her some time to get used to the idea. Cute babies are hard to resist when they arrive. :)
deleted-user·
I know a guy who got his girlfriend pregnant but refused to get married before baby was born because he wanted her to know that when he did marry her (which he did a couple years later) that it was because he *wanted* to be with with *her*, not because he was expected to because of the baby. I thought it was very sweet. They have three kids and marriage still going strong!