Mom mode So my husband is constantly telling me to relax and says that I'm in Mom mode 24/7 I guess…

I also went from busy office job to SAHM. It's been about 4yrs now and I've only calmed down because I had #2. It forced me to let go. I'm now pregnant with #3 and I already know I'll have to let go some more. I guess I started feeling more at ease when I allowed myself to not feel bad about things. Like a dirty this or disorganized that. I took stock of what were my top 3 or 4 priorities and focused as much on those and tried to keep the rest afloat. And they shift too so it's not like they are set. My priorities are exercising, making dinner, keeping kitchen clean, engaging with my toddler. It might sound like a little but when there are still a million things to do, there are days when only 1 of these gets done :( You can't do everything so choose what is important.

I agree with pp...expecting my 3rd after being in corporate for almost 9 yrs...I usually make a balanced list of things to do for the family (house wise), toddler (we also have a 1st grader) while big sis is at school, marriage and something just for me...my husband & I both agreed it's not ok to leave myself out so even if it's just quiet time to drink a glass of wine & play a few songs, he always get the kids ready & tucked in bed to give me that time. I made a list of 20 fun "me time" things I can do & 20 for my marriage...all about balance

Girl yes same here. Listen schedule schedule schedule okay! Get you and your little ones on a schedule. Find out what works for you and stick to it. It will help you feel in control of your day and also allow you to relax when you know what's going to happen next. I've had my son on a schedule since he was born. Right now my husband is at work and my son is asleep so this is my down time. I'm watching Harry Potter while folding the laundry and taking to you. Lol and I have anxiety and depression like you wouldn't believe and it'll always be with me BUT having this schedule puts it at ease. It helps so much.

Try listening to fun music throughout the day and dance with the kids or while you clean. It really helps your mood and switches you into a more playful, fun mood.

It is hard to find a balance. Everyone is different but I'd say don't stress about a schedule. Allow yourself a more laid back Friday, date night once a month,have the last hour of the day be you and hubby's show time..let him do bedtime while you take a bath...etc.