if you've lost A child whether it be a miscarriage, stillborn or a death of a living child do you…

I've had a miscarriage and I don't add that when people ask me how many kids I have. If I'm asked how many pregnancies I've had I'll count that. I miscarried at 6 weeks.

No I don't mention my miscarriage.

My first was a stillbirth, when ppl ask I tell them it is my 3rd pregnancy, but My first passed away. It has been 5 years going on 6 and I still include him. I don't think I will ever stop. He is my angel baby. ?

I say I have a 3 yr old and expecting another son.

I miscarried at 7 weeks and I don't like to bring it up or talk about it ever unless it's with my SO.

I don't mention my miscarriages

I don't mention my miscarriage when I say how many kids.

If someone asks me what pregnancy I'm on I say, "This is baby #3 but I've had a miscarriage" If I'm asked how many kids I have I always just say 2 boys and I'm pregnant with my dd.

No but I always think about it and hesitate a little

I had 1 miscarriage and I have 2 daughters.

If I get asked by a stranger I say 2 daughters, unless the miscarriage topic comes up.

I dont. But obviously at the doctor i say this is pregnancy #4.

A miscarriage, ectopic, 1 birth and currently pregnant.

To strangers I don't ring up my miscarriage unless the topic is broached. I've decided to be more open about our loss and struggle with infertility because it was so hard for me and I felt so isolated because I had no one to talk to about it. I went through a serious depression and I felt awful trying to talk to my hubby. He's amazing but I knew how much talking about it hurt me and I didn't want to keep reopening the wound for him. So if someone brings up either of those strange or family I say something so someone else doesn't feel as alone as me.

I always include my stillborn. I brought her into this world, she was just sleeping. She is and will always be a part of me and my children.

I know this isn't the question, but I placed my first for adoption but I don't say I have 2 children. I just claim ds. I know I throw people off when I say I have 1 child and 1 otw but I talk about my first, second & third pregnancies. But I have no problem explaining I have one child but gave another a beautiful life❤

My baby boy passed away when he was roughly 3 months.

I include him when someone ask how many children. I always say two and if they continue asking the usually how many? Boy or girl? I answer and include my angel baby.

I'm pretty emotionally detached so it's quite easy to engage in the conversation

I've had both a miscarriage and child loss. My son died at 20 months. If someone asks how many pregnancies, I say 3. If they ask how many children, I say two. (My son, plus one on the way). My son of course I always include as he was part of my life for almost 2yrs and always will. Will tell my daughter about her big brother, when she gets here.

I loss my living son at 8 months and I tell everyone I have 2 children but my son passed away.

I only mention my chemical when asked by medical professionals.

If I got to meet the baby, I would include them. I had a very early miscarriage and nobody really knows except my fiance. So we know that I have been pregnant 3 times, but I only have two children. But if I were to lose this child (currently 29 weeks), I would forever include him as my son.

Yes i do my 3y/o daughter died in April of last year so I say I have 3 children 2 living

I include my stillborn son. When I was pregnant with my rainbow, people would always ask me what baby this was and I'd say 5th. Now that he's born, I say I have 5 kids. Unless they ask me their ages, I don't normally mention that he's passed away. If they do, I list the ages and say I have one son in heaven.

In my heart I do, but it isn't something I share with someone I don't know which I'm assuming they don't if they're asking lol.

I have 2 children...they're 5 & 7...I don't consider an early miscarriage as a mentionable child...it had no name, unknown gender, etc. Stillbirth/child born shortly after birth I would definitely mention

Same as @cams

I've had 2 chemical pregnancies one at 4 and 5 weeks and don't count them.

Wow theres so many of us that have suffered a loss. Im very sorry to those of you who lost a living child, that is absolutely the worst thing a parent could experience. Thank you for taking time to post.

I have 3 living children and my dh and i just lost our 4th at 12 weeks. My dh and i were having this conversation and he said he wouldnt include our 4th baby if people asked but i said i would so i wanted to see what everyone elses thoughts were. I passed my baby naturally at home and got to hold the baby for a short time and it was a very traumatic experience for me personally so for me i couldnt not include my 4th baby, it was my baby even though the heart stopped beatind and i never knew until weeks later. We also buried the baby so to me the baby is and always will be apart of my family.

I don't mention my miscarriage unless someone specifically asks about it.

I've had 2 miscarriages (before 10 weeks)and I don't include them when I talk about how many children I have, I do count them when asked how many pregnancies. BUT if I were 20 weeks or further along and miscarried, I would absolutely count that baby.

I do not. If people ask I have 2 children, & I had a miscarriage in between. I don't tend to really share that info with randoms or people I don't know very well

I do not. I say I have 1 child, not 3. If they ask and the subject comes up, I will tell them I had a miscarriage several years ago but I don't normally tell people about it.

My first son passed away a few days after he was born due to a heart defect. When people ask how many kids I have it depends if it's a stranger or someone I'm friends with. Usually I don't include him because I get super awkward and uncomfortable trying to explain and I hate talking about it. Like when people at work ask I just say this will be my third child when really he will be my fourth.

I only include my living children.

I won't include my miscarriage in how many children I have. I miscarried my first pregnancy at 13 weeks, and am newly pregnant for the second time. If I give birth to this baby, it will be my only child.

Other people with loss grieve differently and feel differently about this though. Someone I know will often refer to her first child, a full term stillbirth, in terms of age "xxxx is turning seven years old today!", and say things like "I love being a mother to my two perfect boys!". She does have a second, living child as well. I may find that strange, but it's how she grieves. I don't think there is a right and a wrong. Loss is loss and whatever helps to cope is the right thing to do.

I say this is my 3rd pregnancy, I always include my son. I lost him at 26 weeks last May, we buried him and he had a birth/death certificate. He's still my son. When my daughter tells people she's a big sister, she says she's going to have a baby sister and has a baby brother who passed away.

I had a miscarriage at 8 weeks and a 9 month old baby boy. I say I have one baby.

I had a miscarriage and I do not include it in my child count. It was an early one so maybe that's why. I don't feel like it's anyone else's business.

I always say I've got 1 and had a few misscarriages , in my head and heart I have 5 babies and one on the way

My dr asked that question.

I said I was having my third pregnancy. He asked how many children I had.

I said "I've had one live birth so far."

He asked me how many again. I called him an insensitive f*ckwit as it was clear id miscarried at one point and was pregnant again, but wouldn't count this as a live birth until that baby was in my arms.

He actually apologised. Said it is a question on his intake paperwork. Now when I see him, I say 2 live births, 2 loss in utero.

This is so sad. I really am sorry for all of your losses. Such strong ladies in this group ❤

I don't talk about my miscarriages unless asked. At doctor for paperwork I have to write 7 pregnancies with 3 living.

I don't mention my miscarriages unless the topic is brought up. I think it's different though if you've had a stillborn or a child pass away at any point after being born.

I wear a ring in honor of my angel. If anyone asks I'll tell them, other than that I don't bring it up.

I've had two losses at 4 and 5 weeks. I don't count them when someone asks about my kids, but if someone asked how many pregnancies I've had I'll say 5, 3 living and 2 losses. If the topic of miscarriages come up I'll mention them. It's still hard on me that I lost those pregnancies. I have a tattoo to honor my angel babies, even though they were early losses.

I had a miscarriage when I was 15, I don't tell anyone not even my doctors as it's personal. It was very early in the pregnancy, I was two weeks late, but I didn't know I was pregnant until I started to miscarry. No one knew other than the mental hospital that I went to a couple months after it happened due to suicide attempts. And not a lot of people do know because it's very personal. I still know I have a son or daughter out there, but I don't count it because people like to meddle in personal business.

I count my pregnancy I lost as a child! I had a early miscarriage at 6 weeks and I count the pregnancy and child!