? I lost my temper tonight on someone that implies that single moms have men in and out of their…
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I lost my temper tonight on someone that implies that single moms have men in and out of their children's life! All because I said that I don't think marriage is necessary to have children. I would like a stable relationship eventually, yes. But I do not believe that marriage is anything more than a piece of paper.
deleted-user·
I have only ever had one man around my daughter (she's 4) other than her father and she knew him before he came over cuz we were friends....some people are so judgmental and think they know everything
NewMommy·
Single moms can absolutely still date without having a bunch of different men around their kids! I wouldn't bring anyone around unless we were serious. And even then I wouldn't introduce him as my boyfriend, I would introduce him as a friend and see how he did with my son. And of course I have guy friends that will meet my son.
deleted-user·
People are so rude not to mention show me one group of people that have screwed up more kids than the " traditional nuclear family ". Kids need to be loved and provided for and there are many different types of families. Would I personally prefer to be with the father... yes if he were sane lol. Things happen and life goes on, I'm sorry someone was so rude to you. And believe me I'm getting sick of the morally inflated comments too!
NewMommy·
Vanessa, you are so right about the traditional nuclear family screwing kids up. People stay together JUST for the kids and that's so unhealthy. It leaves children with the impression that you're supposed to be unhappy in marriage. My parents fought ALL the time, even physically sometimes and it was terrible for me to see as a child. She even stabbed him in the leg once when I was in their bed (I used to go get into bed with them sometimes until I was about 8 because we lived in an old scary house lol) I'm surprised I turned out alright to be honest.
NewMommy·
Oh and not to mention all the times the cops were called and they would always take my dad even though she was the abuser. For the longest time I hated the police because I associated them with taking my daddy away.
This is a little extreme, but a lot of married couples do still fight or they just don't even like each other and the children can tell. I would rather my son have a happy home with just me than an unhappy one where there's a man living with us.