Vent My dad came to help us with some home repairs. My dad and I have a rocky relationship. Long…

Vent

My dad came to help us with some home repairs. My dad and I have a rocky relationship. Long story short my dad is bipolar manic possibly some sort of schizophrenia. He doesn't acknowledge it doesn't go to the dr or anything. When he's on his good days I love him I love my dad and the way he jokes and the conversations we have. When he's on his bad days it's bad. We insults and threatens he yells and is just a bad person. Well he was on his good days here. My dad and dh get along great. Dh is very patient with him and my dad loves him like his own son. Well I'm a little in the messy clean side when it comes to the house. It's hard for me to keep up with the house always tidy and organized BUT it is always clean. As in kitchen is clean vacuumed bathrooms are cleaned and clean laundry. My dad pulled me to the side basically and gave me his "advice". He's very macho we are Hispanic and basically thinks women are below men in a certain way. He told me that I needed to always keep the house clean and picked up, myself and kids always dressed and presentable. He told me that for a man that is very important and that my only responsibility is to take my roles as a wife and woman and fulfill them as such. His words -"a woman needs to put up with her husband as a must, she won't make it far without one, especially you. You will never find yourself another like your husband. You have all day to keep the house and yourself presentable. You need him, he doesn't need you. He can leave whenever he wants but you can't. Especially not alone and with the kids. You won't make it anywhere." I dont know why it hurt me so much. He's said way worse to me before especially as a child. It those words hurt me so bad. I plan on talking to dh about it and ask him if he told him anything. But it's all I've been able to think about. I just needed to vent. Sorry for my petty party