Daughter learned an new word for penis

Glitch

Scary. I'd start with going and talking directly to her instructers.

Hopefully it's just something innocent she picked up on in prek.... but I'd deff be worried and looking for answers as well !

I just started questioning her just while we played. She told me a guy at a wedding we were recently to got her by her arm and asked if she wanted to see a surprise, and she said yes. She said the guy said you can't tell your mom though and she said ok. He started telling her about his penis and he pulled his pants down. She said she covered her eyes and he pulled her hands away. She said she tried to run but the guy pushed her on the wall that she tried yelling but no one heard her. I asked if he did anything to her or if he made her do anything and she said no. What do I do now

Call. The. Cops

And take her to the doctor.

This was two weeks ago what can the cops do? I will be making an appropriate tomorrow for the dr.

I would be raising absolute hell to find out who this guy was. Definitely take her to the doctor, maybe they can help get some more answers without stressing her or the situation out more. That is so scary, I'm so sorry op ?

The cops can still take care of it. You need to call them now and take her to the er. Don't wait on this.

I don't want to keep asking questions she seems to get upset and stressed when I ask. I just don't know what to do. I've told her over and over not to go with strangers she knows. She was with me and dh. Our family was there and they are well known and trusted she was with her older cousin who's 13 and she is very responsible.

What can the cops do? Open a case and arrest the f*** ing pervert.

The longer you wait to report this, the more time it gives that dirtbag to do this to another child.

Omg! I'm so sorry!!!! I just went through a similar experience with my son but it ended up not being as crazy as I thought it was, still was sickening and the most stressful time in my whole life. I'd call the cops, I'd question family, I'd pull pics up of everyone who was there and ask her to point him out or ask the cops to do that for you.

:( oh my gosh. I'm so so sorry. Your poor little girl. I feel so sick reading that. Children shouldn't go through things like that. I would get her into therapy, and I would take her to the hospital to get her checked and to get it on record. I hope someone can help figure out who that man was.

Also, don't ask her any more questions about it and don't talk to her about it. She needs to see a dr asap

Call the cops right now! Don't wait!

Oh my goodness. Your poor child. I would definitely call the cops. Does she know who the man was? Is there a way to figure it out if she does? This is just sickening

Do you think the 13 yr old cousin would be able to describe anyone she noticed around them, or maybe they would remember specifically if she went off with someone? I would really be asking around to get as much info as possible. And yes I would still call the cops and let them know the info you have so far.

You really need to report this to thr cops as soon as possible... I would not wait.. And take her to the e.r.

Call police and make a report and definitely take her to the Dr.

Omg, please do like pp's said! Your poor girl.

Call the police asap mama. Tell your daughter how brave she is and how happy you are that she was able to tell you. Explain to her that what he did wasn't ok, and you're so happy she's safe now. Let her know you're there if she wants to talk more. I'm so sorry this happened to her, that's really sickening. Thank goodness nothing else happened to her. But like everyone else said, file with the police asap and try to figure out who did this!!!

I'm so sorry OP! Reading your comment made me sick. Please contact the police, they can help!!

people are so nasty!

I'm so sorry this happened to her, I hope he really didn't do anything else, please contact the police ASAP and take her to the ER ?

Call the cops and have them request a full wedding guest list to the bride and groom and go from there. Omg wtf. I would be raising hell to find out who the man was. Don't wait because the time you're waiting is the time he's using to do it some other child!

Take her to the ER. They will ask if you want to file a report and will contact the police for you. They will also have the proper people such as social workers come and talk to her about it. Do not wait. The sooner you get her in there, the sooner they can start the proceedings.

Did she hear an older kid say it? Or possibly hear it on tv?

Omg I just read your comment about a wedding.. Omg op please call the cops!!

I'm so sorry your daughter went through this it is sickening and the monster who did this needs to be stopped ... I would file a report with the police and also try to get pics from wedding to see if your daughter can identify the man

Generally you want as little talk about it as possible until she's talked to a person who specializes in child sexual assault. The more people she talks to (her doctor, even you if you keep bringing it up, nurses, etc), the less the investigators can be sure came from her versus being "suggested." Not that anyone suggests anything on purpose, but in these situations, often times people ask leading questions which puts things in the child's mind. I'd just tell her thank you for trusting you enough to tell you, and that you're so sorry that happened to her. Then contact the police and ask them to get you in contact with the correct division.

don't push her and ask her anymore. let the experts handle that, they're trained to ask the right questions and how to approach her. you just need to make a report.

Don't wait until tomorrow.

Ugh I'm so livid for you!!!

WTF

This is horrible! I hope you get answers and they are able to find the person, before it happens to another child. I agree, stop asking her questions and just call the police/take her to be checked. Good luck, mama ❤

Omg blue I'm sooo incredibly sorry to hear this. My heart breaks for you and your babygirl ?

I'd talk to a counselor yourself and see what they say you should say to her to help.

Oh blue, holy shît. I am so sorry. It sounds like you're doing everything you can. I think you've gotten great responses below. A counselor whose trained to speak with her first, and calling the cops second. I'm obviously no professional, but that sounds reasonable. Ugh.

I'm furious and hearthurt for you.

? so sorry momma. That is awful

I'm so angry for you. Ugh! Definitely call the cops and take her to the ER if you can't get an appointment with her pedi tomorrow. Make sure to just let her know you're there for her and you're so proud that she told you. I'm so extremely sorry that your daughter had to go through that. ?

Depending on where you live, there may be trauma services for children in your area. Even the small town I lived in had a child advocacy center called Roxanne's House. You can look online and call a local crisis hotline. They can put you in touch with the right people. I'm so sorry this has happened. The sooner this guy is caught the better. Chances are he's done it before and is likely to do it again. If you need support, I'm here for you. Hugs!

Omg I can't even begin to imagine how you're feeling right now. I would be so hurt and mad.

I think the advice given on this thread was definitely helpful. Most importantly go to the ER and don't question her anymore.

I'm so sorry OP ?

I hope she's ok !!!

Thank you so much for your kind words. I haven't been able to stop thinking about it. I am working on getting her all the help she may need and just being there for her. This was always my worst fear that some sick person would do this to her. But I'm just glad from what she said he didn't do anything to her directly as in touch her or take her. I talked to her and just told her I wasn't mad and thanked her for telling me. That she was not in any trouble and that I would always take care of her and be there for her. Thank you all again

Wow. I'm so sorry. You're doing such a great job handling this though, OP. It's amazing how you found all of this out simply from your DD using an unusual word, and it's so admirable how you stayed calm enough to make your daughter feel comfortable telling you what happened. Good job, Mama.

I hope that man rots, in this life and after.

I'm so sorry you're going through this. You did the right thing and I'm so glad your daughter told you what happened because alot of the time, they keep quiet about these things.☹️

I hope that animal suffers and has people touching him in prison!

I'm so sorry ? you've handled it very well so far. How disgusting! I hope you ask for everyone that attended the wedding. This probably isn't his first time doing something like this. I hope you find out who he is. I wish our country wasn't so lax on sexual assaults. Registering as a sex offender just enough for me. They should rot.

Im really sorry..

*small update

Police department was notified I am waiting for a detective to call me to know what's next. The location was also notified and they have been very helpful in what they can.

I will be praying!!! So sorry OP, I would be terrified and so angry!!!

I'm so sorry op. I hope you are able to find out who this disgusting person is. Poor baby

Mama I'm so so sorry.

I can't even imagine how you must be feeling! Your poor little one! She's lucky to have such an attentive momma! Hopefully that will be this terrible event not effect her as much as it could have. Also! I hope the police are able to find who did this and put him away! So sick and so heartbreaking.

Only a sick person would do such a thing. I'm sorry you had to deal with this. I'm happy you daughter is okay. I'm praying for you and your family. Stay strong mama.

So sorry to hear this . This too is my biggest fear as a parent . I hope you and your daughter get justice and he is locked away so he can no longer do this to any other child. People are so sick. ?