What would you do?? We are currently renting a house that is divided. We live upstairs and there is…
What would you do??
We are currently renting a house that is divided. We live upstairs and there is a couple that live downstairs with a three year old. We don't ever see each other and the only thing we share is the laundry. We also live in Wyoming it's really windy and cold. I've never actually talked to our neighbors in person only texting. Well yesterday I texted her cause I needed the laundry when she was done and she later let me know she was done washing and said whatever I was cooking smelled really good. I said thanks and didn't think anything of it. Well she said she was selling some used toys and a jacket her son only used a few times. We had also offered her we could share the internet service we had and she said no they didn't have money and barely enough for the bills. Well today on fb I was looking at the things being sold and saw her post. She is selling the jacket and in the post she said she needed the money to buy her son a new jacket. I feel bad now and feel like I should buy that jacket even if we don't use it. Or go buy her son a jacket. I later told her I didn't mean to be nosy or offend her but if she needed food or something to let me know and she said thanks that they were good for right now. So after all this rambling what would you do? Should we just buy the jacket or buy the kid a jacket? He's abut 3 years old
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It's not your responsibility, but if you feel like being nice, maybe buy the kid a new jacket- to be sure that he gets what he needs as opposed to buying something and giving her money. I'd hate for a 3 year old to be cold too ?
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If u had the extra money I would buy the jacket
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Aw no. Yeah, honestly if it where me, I'd start trying to become friendly, in person. Ask what his favorite color is, then get the jacket and offer it to them as a holiday gift. If they don't want it, then donate it or keep it for your children.
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If your kid needs a jacket or if you just feel in your heart that this is something you want to do, go for it. Personally I would buy the jacket because she might be wanting to buy a specific style or color or something, without having that information I would be more willing to drop off a gift card or buy the coat. I think it can only come across as a kind gesture, I'm sure they'll appreciate it. But like a pp said, it's not your responsibility so don't put your needs aside to do it, you've got to make sure y'all are ok first.
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If u have the money too I'd buy the extra jacket and just leave it at he door
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No.
Once you start down that road it can be hard to stop. Today it's just a jacket. Next week who knows what it will be if they think you are generous.
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You already offered to help so I would leave it at that.
If it were me I may bake extra cookies for them when I'm cooking or something along those lines.
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Not to sound weird, but where in WY? If we're close I have a 3t coat that doesn't fit my kid anymore.
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I like skates idea. Get to know them, they are your neighbors after all. Then you can give him a new jacket as a Christmas present (or even thrown in a gift basket of fruit or holiday cookies for the parents.) You're being neighborly (instead of just charitable) which might be kinder on their pride.
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Bebe-- that's what I'm also afraid of. I dont mind helping if we can but when I know people need it it's hard for me to say no.
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I would buy him a new one.
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That's heartbreaking. Tis the season of giving!! I would buy him a new one
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I would buy a new one and leave it with a bow.
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I would give her a gift card to the place the jacket is from as a Christmas gift as neighbours. Just because while they may be a needy family that fell on hard times, sometimes people start to ask for more and it would be an uncomfortable living situation.
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My neighbor just had a baby and I gave her a brand new medala breast pump I had never used. I'll get a new one with insurance and that one I had paid for myself when I had my son earlier this year but never was able to use it. My neighbors across the street gave me a brand new bouncer for my son who's 10 months. Maybe it's just my neighborhood but we always help each other out! I would get the jacket or a gift card!